Sister in law gave my son covid

[Hijabigirl234]

I’m still fuming right now,but basically we went to visit my sister in laws house on Saturday the 17th ( their household is our bubble) she said nothing to us about being next to someone who tested positive for covid,nothing. She was there kissing my kids and everything ( they are 5&4), this Tuesday the 20th comes around,it’s Eid and my sons birthday party ( he’s 4 today!) I spoke to her the night before,my husband saw her the night before, she came with her family to our house for the party even knowing my dad who is fully jabbed but still vunerable was their, she said nothing. Early hours of wed morning my son jumped into bed with me, and he was coughing a cough I have never heard before ( sounding very dry and almost like a bark) I knew nothing at this point but I don’t know why I had a feeling he had covid. Wed afternoon my sister in law texts me a picture saying “ guess what my covid test is positive. last wed I was next to my friend we went to the gym together,and my friend tested positive on Friday. I have been feeling really unwell since Monday,feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to ruin my eid day to go out because I’d have to isolate."

Just think, this woman not only came to my house, but afterwards went to her husbands family house who has a large family,the same woman who since Monday has been going out here their and everywhere without a mask whilst knowing she was close to someone with covid and herself showing symptoms.

I can’t stop being so angry, I think she is extremely selfish that she had not 1,but 2 opportunities to tell us she had been next to someone with covid and showing symptoms, my 4 year old son,who’s birthday is today has tested positive for covid and he’s coughing too ( me,my husband and daughter have tested neg)

AIBU to think she is the most selfish person to do this,to go all these places knowing her situation very well, to come inside my house kissing and hugging my children knowing she has symptoms and knowing she most likely had covid. I was so angry last night that I told my husband to call his sister and kick of because this behaviour is disgusting, he shouted at me and said well it’s wrong but what can I do now.

The thing that makes me more angry is,is that when my little boys test came back positive, she was sending laughing emojis ( 🤣😂) so it’s clearly just all a very big joke to her.

What a lovely 4th birthday present she has given to her nephew.

post edited by MNHQ in order to avoid further confusion

[YerWanIsGettinNotions]

YANBU. I'm fuming in your behalf. What a selfish piece of work!

Hope your DS has a mild dose and starts to feel better soon. X

[niceupthedanceagain]

Wow that is massively irresponsible.

[ChainJane]

She's not one of these people who thinks the "crying laughing" emoji is meant to be a sad crying emoji is she? Not justifying what she's done but I've seen people misusing these emojis before eg when reacting to a death announcement.

[Overthebow]

YANBU. She should have been isolating as soon as her friend got the positive test result, and as soon as she had symptoms.

[aiwblam]

I hope your dc is ok. Whilst she is very selfish and stupid, at least the likelihood is that your dc will be fine and then have protective antibodies for school in September.

[SpringSparrow]

You have been feeling unwell since Monday and didn’t want to take a test before Eid and your son’s birthday as you didn’t want to isolate 🙄🧐. Surely you are also spreading it?! So have you taken a test? Is it positive?

[WhoNeedsaManOfTheWorld]

You are such a hypocrite. You are doing exactly the same by not getting a test and isolating
This is why it's spreading.

[Hijabigirl234]

@SpringSparrow

You have been feeling unwell since Monday and didn’t want to take a test before Eid and your son’s birthday as you didn’t want to isolate 🙄🧐. Surely you are also spreading it?! So have you taken a test? Is it positive?

Not me, this post is about my sister in law who came to my house and saw us twice and never said she had been next to someone with covid and has now tested positive ( my little boy too)

[MissyB1]

That’s a confusing post OP. I had to read it a few times. It sounds like you were the one ignoring symptoms.

[Orf1abc]

Not unreasonable at all, but the reality is that this is the government's plan. Herd immunity by any means possible, and no thought for the vulnerable.

I hope you're all feeling better soon. So many people that have managed to keep safe are now becoming unwell.

[Hijabigirl234]

@WhoNeedsaManOfTheWorld

You are such a hypocrite. You are doing exactly the same by not getting a test and isolating
This is why it's spreading.

Read my post, I have said we have been tested, me my husband and daughter are negative and my son is positive, he has symptoms and have been isolated since we got told and obviously now he has tested positive. I am not a hypocrite.

[MissyB1]

Speech marks, it’s all about speech marks.

[Hijabigirl234]

@MissyB1

That’s a confusing post OP. I had to read it a few times. It sounds like you were the one ignoring symptoms.

No, my sister in law came to my home, and after told me she had been next to someone who had tested posit W for covid and had been showing symptoms herself ( but didn’t want to ruin her eid by coming to our house so tested after which ended up positive ) I’m fuming because she never told me any of this until after and my son has tested positive.

[DrinkFeckArseBrick]

I'm absolutely astounded by some peoples attitude. Yes it is a pain to isolate but to get close to people when you know you're probably positive, is mind boggling. So selfish - I know kids dont get that ill with it but it has ruined his birthday and party completely needlessly! I'd have to at least say I was really cross that she saw you knowing she likely had it as his birthday is ruined and could be avoided.

Not to mention all the people she could have made severely ill. People are still being hospitalised and dying, even when vaccinated.

And before people point out that people still die of the flu and norovirus etc etc, yes I would still stay away from people if I thought I had anything like that and certainly wouldnt be hugging and kissing people knowing I may be contagious

[JustJoinedRightNow]

OP was writing about what her SIL sent her in a text.

OP it was a bit confusing, hence the people above calling you a hypocrite

[cumulonimbus523]

I'm not sure because OP's post isn't clear, but it sounds like the whole feeling unwell since Monday but not testing was what her SIL did, not her. Just going off the very next paragraph but I agree it isn't immediately obvious who did what.

[JustJoinedRightNow]

@MissyB1

Speech marks, it’s all about speech marks.

This!

[SheABitSpicyToday]

Op forgot the speech marks but it’s obvious what she meant

[DrinkFeckArseBrick]

Also why is your husband shouting at you for asking him to speak to his sister? But if she is texting you can you not just text back saying something?

[Bizawit]

@SpringSparrow

You have been feeling unwell since Monday and didn’t want to take a test before Eid and your son’s birthday as you didn’t want to isolate 🙄🧐. Surely you are also spreading it?! So have you taken a test? Is it positive?

I think she means this is what her SIL said! Not OP. OP has tested negative.

[cumulonimbus523]

@Hijabigirl234 sorry, cross posted - I see you'd already explained everything whilst I was busy typing!

[Debetswell]

@Hijabigirl234 I understood your post.
If your dh won't confront his dsis then do it yourself.
Tell her that you think she has been cruel to her nephew deliberately risking his health.
And make it clear that you can't trust her so she's not welcome in future without a negative lateral flow test.

[PullTheWeeds]

@SpringSparrow - I don't think pp was saying that, all of that part of ops text is what what the sil said in her msg I think.

That's so unfair of her, never mind the 2 occasions that she could have told you, she should have been isolating anyway once she found out about her friend. I hope your son feels ok and gets better soon and the rest of your household stays clear.

[Hijabigirl234]

@DrinkFeckArseBrick

Also why is your husband shouting at you for asking him to speak to his sister? But if she is texting you can you not just text back saying something?

The way I’ve responded to her she already knows I’m not happy and being funny with her, mainly over the reasons she didn’t say anything until after and is still finding the whole situation funny. Someone asked if she got confused with the crying face and laughing face, I don’t think so, when she said she was positive she put a laughing emoji and more of them when I said my son tested positive.

[Hijabigirl234]

And also for the reasons that it’s my sons birthday today and all of the plans we did have,have obviously been ruined.