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Just call her by her name?!

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FF7RGEEK · 29/06/2021 17:58

I have 4 DD, my youngest is 1 next month.
My MIL won't use her name, just calls her baby she says it is impossible to pronounce (it isn't) in the beginning she would try to say her name and call her something not even remotely similar to her name.
She now has other family members doing the same and they won't use her name either, even though they did to begin with.
DH, tells her all the time that she is being silly and to just use her name, she will then just fall out with us.
I know her name is unusual but it is beautiful (in our opinion) am I being unreasonable to tell her she has to use her name?

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Am I being unreasonable?

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Tittyfilarious81 · 29/06/2021 18:00

What's the name ?

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brizzlewizzle · 29/06/2021 18:01

Think we might need to hear the name! Bit of course she should use it - she can't call her baby forever!

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NerrSnerr · 29/06/2021 18:01

I can see how it's annoying but I can't see how you can force her to use her name. How unusual is the name?

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Exhausted4ever · 29/06/2021 18:01

You can't post this without saying the name so yabu

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Bouncebacker · 29/06/2021 18:02

You have to tell us the name for us to be able to say for sure - but she probably is being unreasonable and rude!

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Sirzy · 29/06/2021 18:02

I would just ignore her, don’t fuel her attention seeking!

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SuperMonkeys · 29/06/2021 18:03

She won't call her baby forever. You can't dictate what she calls her

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Pinot4evs · 29/06/2021 18:03

Really need to know what the name is to tell if she’s being unreasonable or not!

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DysmalRadius · 29/06/2021 18:04

You can't dictate what she calls her

Isn't that what names are for?

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Standrewsschool · 29/06/2021 18:04

I think that’s quite hurtful that she won’t use dc’s name, and is encouraging others to use an alternative name.

I think that every time she’s calls her Baby, you need to correct her. If she says ‘How is Baby today?’, then reply ‘who is Baby?’. Make it uncomfortable and awkward for her. Same with relatives. If she sends a card with Baby on, return it. Zero tolerance!

If she really can’t pronounce the name, is there a nn you’d be happy to use?

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Its90minutestonight · 29/06/2021 18:04

When she's older, your DD will tell her in no uncertain terms to call her by her name. until then, ignore.

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NVision · 29/06/2021 18:05

Need the name sorry yabu otherwise

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Saidtoomuch · 29/06/2021 18:06

Its very rude of her not to use the child's name. What is it?

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IronTeeth · 29/06/2021 18:06
Hmm
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30degreesandmeltinghere · 29/06/2021 18:07

Her falling out with you would surely be a blessing?

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Sunny4876 · 29/06/2021 18:08

I do agree,if that's what you want,she should abide by it.
My youngest is also the youngest in the wider family and the youngest has always been called the baby until a new one comes along.
She put her foot down a few weeks ago as turning 9 and declared she's too old to be called the baby

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Notimeforaname · 29/06/2021 18:08

We need the name!

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ShagMeRiggins · 29/06/2021 18:09

Teach your youngest—when she learns to speak—how to say “My name isn’t Baby, it’s xxxxx.”

Unless you’re planning to have her take private dance lessons at Kellerman’s, of course.

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HavelockVetinari · 29/06/2021 18:10

Unless it's Huitzilopochtli or Ng then YANBU

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Ellpellwood · 29/06/2021 18:14

Going by your username, is it Aerith? Grin

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Heronwatcher · 29/06/2021 18:16

Can you start getting all your DDs to call her “old woman” or similar?

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Howshouldibehave · 29/06/2021 18:18

Is it a made up name?!

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Heyyeahyouwiththesadface · 29/06/2021 18:22

@Heronwatcher

Can you start getting all your DDs to call her “old woman” or similar?

Do this! Grin
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SemperIdem · 29/06/2021 18:22

Surely calling her baby is stranger than using her given name

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Mumdiva99 · 29/06/2021 18:24

You said at the beginning she tried and got it wrong.....did you try to correct her? Maybe she felt bad and thought if she calls he baby you won't correct her.

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