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AIBU to ask how come Britney Spears had an IUD fitted without her permission?

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ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 24/06/2021 21:55

I mean, her father has had conservatorship for 13 years but an IUD is only valid for 5-10 years so could someone explain it to me? Surely it couldn't have been inserted without her permission?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 24/06/2021 21:58

Anyone who lacked capacity to consent or not to this procedure would absolutely not be able to consent or not to sex. So there's no way I can see she could have been forced.

Also it would be assault.

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Nightbear · 24/06/2021 21:59

She didn’t say she was forced to get it, she said she wanted it removed and was refused permission.

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ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 24/06/2021 22:03

@Nightbear

She didn’t say she was forced to get it, she said she wanted it removed and was refused permission.

Ah ok. So she's had it in for more than 13 years then? Isn't that medically concerning?
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cadburyegg · 24/06/2021 22:04

To me it sounds like she agreed for it to be fitted x amount of years ago, there was no suggestion it was fitted against her will. But now she wants it removed but isn't allowed

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MargaretFraggle · 24/06/2021 22:05

There is so much about this that is concerning.

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gingerbiscuit19 · 24/06/2021 22:07

She didn't say she didn't consent to it being fitted she's saying she no longer wants it and isn't allowed to have it removed.

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Nightbear · 24/06/2021 22:07

Why are you assuming 13 years???

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ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 24/06/2021 22:10

Yeah I guess I didn't understand what happened @Nightbear - hence my asking on here.

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Beeeeeeeeeeeeeep · 24/06/2021 22:12

She didn't say it's been in for 13 years, nor that she didn't consent to having it put in. I'm not sure why you're confused. She wants to get married and have a baby, they won't let her.

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TheRebelle · 24/06/2021 22:23

The scenarios where she could consent to sex but not pregnancy would be quite rare, even if she wasn’t going to be allowed custody of the child once it’s been born we don’t prevent people from becoming pregnant unless it would result in serious disability or loss of life.

No one could argue she couldn’t provide financially for a child and the conservator could always ensure a nanny or team of nannies were employed to help with caring for the child if that’s what they’re worried about.

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buzz91 · 24/06/2021 22:37

She’s been in a situation where she was given no say in her life, punished for doing anything her family/therapist etc. Didn’t want and made to think they had the best intentions for her. She was saying she was fine a little while ago and now realises she was in denial about her situation. She could well have agreed to have it inserted but it doesn’t mean she was fully in control of the decision.

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Unsuremover · 24/06/2021 22:44

No way someone in her situation can consent to sex. Really hard questions should be asked of who has had sex with her since she has been subject to an conservatorship. I can imagine why she hasn’t included details but surely that’s a question that should be asked.

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3Britnee · 24/06/2021 22:47

Two words. Coercive control.

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EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 24/06/2021 22:47

She's had boyfriends , although I read she had to get permission from her dad. To unwell to have any control of her life but well enough to have relationships / go pn tour up until a few years ago when she started refusing. Its all very strange

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questionsaboutConsent · 24/06/2021 22:51

If she were to have another baby that would mean some kind of maternity leave and my impression is that her father wants her working as that’s his income.

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CupOfTPlease · 24/06/2021 22:51

There is so much that is concerning and it's scary what money can really do.

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Yellowcrockpot · 24/06/2021 22:52

Placemarking as interested to see others opinions on this also.

If Britney is able to make the choice to have sex, surely she can make the choice to have her contraceptive removed, or make a choice on her preferred form of contraceptive.

Throw up a question why is she not able to make this choice? And who exactly is she sleeping with, to have people feel so strongly about her choice(s) when it comes to something as personal as sex/contraception - there is so much wrong with her situation nothing would surprise me any longer.

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parietal · 24/06/2021 22:54

She could have consented to have it put in say, 3 yrs ago, and now wants it out but it is not due out for another 5 years and they won't let her have it out sooner.

So the consent it only about removal. There are plenty of cases I've read on here of the NHS being pretty slow to take things out ...

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Roonerspismed · 24/06/2021 22:54

I’m horrified by the whole thing. I feel so sorry for her.

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CherryPieface · 24/06/2021 22:55

You don’t believe her?

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ArabellaStrange · 24/06/2021 23:00

Her father is a horrible person who is basically a parasite off her work.
It's insane that this is happening in the 21st century but I am sure there are at least two or three of the rules of misogyny applying to this situation.

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Concerned2021 · 24/06/2021 23:02

Ok confused by the person who is saying no way could she have consented to sex ?? Why ?

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RickJames · 24/06/2021 23:05

I believe Britney. She's obviously got issues but so have a lot of people. There's nothing that I can see that could justify being under a conservetorship other than people want her money.

Would they put a man under a conservatorship? Michael Jackson? Kurt Cobain? They were pretty unstable, no? Of course not, its a misogynist backed abuse. It's slavery. #freebritney

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NotAnotherPushyMum · 24/06/2021 23:08

I think the concern is possibly around her becoming pregnant whilst she’s on the medications she’s taking, and that’s why it’s not as simple as ‘being allowed’ to have another child.

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