I'm a stroke survivor and also have severe osteoarthritis which impacts massively on my independence. I'm also diabetic.
My DH is my sole carer which is how he wants it.
I cope with toileting myself by day and use a commode at night which I manage alone but he needs to empty the bucket each morning.
He cooks most of the meals and serves them because I can't carry things. He also does the washing twice a week.
Yesterday I overheard him telling a mutual friend that he's exhausted and 'never gets a minute' to himself. I'm heartbroken by this.
I keep between meal requests to a minimum because after being active and independent this hasn't gone well with me and I'm quite frankly embarrassed at needing to be cared for! I try my best to combine requests so he gets longer breaks. Twice a week he meets a friend for coffee for an hour - which is a luxury I don't get. My outings are limited to hospital appointments because he would have push the wheelchair for other things and I don't like asking.
AIBU to be so upset at this.
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To be devastated at DH's comment?
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regthetabbycat · 24/06/2021 13:57
OP posts:
Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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