To deal with potentially passive aggressive birthday gift in this way?

Dadsdayplus1 · 2021-06-21 11:35:01

Name change as want disassociation. SIL bought me an large pink camellia for my special birthday. She absolutely knows that my garden only has white flowers in it. We've just finished renovating a property and landscaping the garden. She's met with me to have lunch at garden centres several times to when I've been sourcing plants, she's helped pant some as well, so she's entirely aware of my garden aesthetic. The reason I assume it's passive aggressive? Well it's a bit of a long running difference of lifestyles. Sge has 2 daughters, I have three (my oldest is a couple of weeks younger than her youngest). She brought hers up with very feminine approach , mine was always anything goes, but I have an aversion to pink and frilly, so I minismised the "girliness" of my daughters attire and lifestyles over the past 20+ years. We've never clashed over it, but she would always imply her way was the correct way to bring up girls. I never promoted my style or commented on hers. So I think the pink plant was a subtle dig. I've received it gracefully and potted it up and it's on my patio glaringly out of place . My AIBU is would I be unreasonable to move it to my other house, perhaps next year? The garden is a riot of colour, so the plant will fit in beautifully there. I will also be moving to that house when I retire, so I'll still be able to enjoy the plant in the future. Would this be inappropriate? Cheers

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