Boyfriend says I eat too much..aibu to think I don't?

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stealmysunshone Tue 15-Jun-21 11:10:02

He always has something to say about what I eat and bangs on I eat too much.
He eats 1 meal a day (if you can call it that ) and for his lunch 1 slice of small bread with 1 slice of ham and that's it all day till 6pm

Today for lunch I had a 2 egg omelette (medium eggs ) with 1/4 tomato and 1/4 online and 2 mushrooms with a small tin of baked beans (2/3 of the tin)
For breakfast I just had a banana

He said that lunch is too big and it's more like a tea time meal.
If I just had 1 slice of bread with ham I would be shaky

For tea I'm having chicken with veg and potatoes
And a snack I've got a count on us 90 cal choc thing.

Aibu here? Is this too much ?
Is this normal ?
Every time I try and argue my case he says
My lunch is a plate full and too much

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stealmysunshone Tue 15-Jun-21 11:11:09

I walk around 6 miles a day

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JorisBonson Tue 15-Jun-21 11:12:01

He's undereating if anything. Is he always critical of you?

Palavah Tue 15-Jun-21 11:12:53

You're fine. Who does he think he is to tell you what to eat?

HappyWipings Tue 15-Jun-21 11:12:54

You're fine. He has issues , as that's not enough for an adult man to eat.

CoffeeandCakeEqualsLove Tue 15-Jun-21 11:13:10

Of course that's not too much food. It sounds like your boyfriend has both food and control issues. Does he have weight or health reasons for being so restrictive himself?

CirqueDeMorgue Tue 15-Jun-21 11:13:14

He's talking shit.


BewareTheBeardedDragon Tue 15-Jun-21 11:13:15

Absolutely none of his business and I would say a red flag for controlling behaviour. Also he's wrong, but that's beside the point really. It's your body and your appetite.

romdowa Tue 15-Jun-21 11:13:16

You eat like you are supposed to to consume enough calories to sustain your body in a healthy manner. It sounds like your oh is starving himself

GravityFalls Tue 15-Jun-21 11:13:22

Well, that's obviously a perfectly normal amount of food to eat as you fully know, and your boyfriend has disordered eating. How dare he take it out on you and make you doubt yourself - you KNOW that's not too much food. Three meals a day is completely standard and it wouldn't matter what you were eating - he has a problem with food and would always take it out on you somehow.

InnaBun Tue 15-Jun-21 11:13:23

Why does he even know what you eat for lunch? Sounds so controlling.

safariboot Tue 15-Jun-21 11:13:30

You mean your ex boyfriend, right?

30degreesandmeltinghere Tue 15-Jun-21 11:13:52

Imo he is the dysfunctional eater..
As you were op...
Keep an eye out for more red flags though.

vodkaredbullgirl Tue 15-Jun-21 11:13:54

He needs to look at what he is eating, not you.

ThatOtherPoster Tue 15-Jun-21 11:14:03

It’s none of his business how much you eat!

moanyhole Tue 15-Jun-21 11:14:32

you're definitely not overeating,
Sound like he has disordered eating himself

pinkyredrose Tue 15-Jun-21 11:14:51

Sounds like he has an eating disorder.

NickyOy Tue 15-Jun-21 11:15:08

What he eats is very small, don't base what is normal to eat on what he is eating. Does he have an eating disorder or issues with food? What you're eating is very reasonable, good healthy protein and fibre. Ignore him

Ivy48 Tue 15-Jun-21 11:15:28

How on earth is he surviving on that much food?! You meals sound great and decent portions that will sustain you throughout the day plus health. His diet is ridiculous, he needs to look at himself

BarbaraofSeville Tue 15-Jun-21 11:16:12

Well a lot of people eat less than that for lunch, but it doesn't make it abnormal or suitable for everyone.

I always have a decent lunch and not very much in the evening because that's what suits me.

Ignore anyone who goes on about how you have 'two big meals' because your lunch sounds perfectly normal and chicken, veg and potatoes could be any size and actually quite light.

If he wants one small sandwich and nothing else to the evening, that's fine if it suits him, but it doesn't give him the right to try to force his rigid eating habits onto you.

IDontReadEyebrows Tue 15-Jun-21 11:16:16

2 things: he’s no right to criticise what you eat, it’s not his business. And your diet sounds a lot healthier than his anyway. I wouldn’t put up with someone putting their hang ups with food onto me.

Twolostsoulsswimminginafishbow Tue 15-Jun-21 11:16:32

Unless it’s a whole chicken (on MN they should feed a family of ten for a month) and half a sack of spuds tell him to fuck off.

DeathStare Tue 15-Jun-21 11:18:27

What you eat is definitely not too much. What he eats is far too little. He is projecting his issues onto you.

But even if you were eating too much he needs to STFU. Why is he trying to control what you eat?

LadyDanburysHat Tue 15-Jun-21 11:18:43

Even if you were stuffing your face with food all day he has no right to comment.

He clearly has an eating disorder. And why on earth are you still with him?

stealmysunshone Tue 15-Jun-21 11:19:32

He always thinks he needs to loose weight.
I get the eye roll if I fancy a takeaway
He was brought up on small portions and "basic" food

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