AIBU that neighbour is a cheeky F !

(259 Posts)
Karmabites2591 Mon 14-Jun-21 00:21:19

Named changed because completely outing If she is on here.

So we live in a terraced house with decent size gardens.
Our garden has a pool, climbing frame and tree house thing for kids.
We have fences but they are lower enough to look over etc.
We have been out every day the last week.
My kids have noticed that things haven’t been where they left them in the garden but I just assumed they just forgot etc

Anyway, I got home from work early today and the kids were still at the park and one with my sister.
When I arrived home.
The neighbours child was in our garden using the climbing frame whilst his mum was in her garden watching.

Seriously ??? Neighbour was apologetic when she realised I was annoyed but said she didn’t really see the problem as he was supervised and wasn’t doing any harm ?

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AGirlsGotToDo Mon 14-Jun-21 00:27:50

Massive cheeky F. Put those spikes on your fence so the child can't climb over grin

Bargebill19 Mon 14-Jun-21 00:36:04

I would bet good money that the minute something was broken by her child, it wouldn’t have been replaced and yet, if her child was injured, she would have found a way to sue you.
Spikes on fence, or trellis and spikey planting. She is a cf.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey Mon 14-Jun-21 00:36:12

Higher/inaccessible fencing.
If anything untoward happens to neighbours child/children, whilst they're on your property, you'll likely to be held liable.

stayathomer Mon 14-Jun-21 00:39:35

Talk about 3 things that could change lives if there was an accident! Maybe call in tomorrow and say it's too dangerous and please dont do it again

Karmabites2591 Mon 14-Jun-21 00:41:56

That’s the thing as well my children well 2 of them the other one is a baby. But my eldest 2 are much older than the boy.
They must be helping him climb over. Climbing over and passing him over etc
The pool
Is safe thankfully.

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Pleasedontsayyouloveme Mon 14-Jun-21 00:43:47

I'd go nuts, what a cheeky git! How dare they.


EineReiseDurchDieZeit Mon 14-Jun-21 00:44:32

It's trespassing!

Can you put a sticky substance on the top of your fence?

Karmabites2591 Mon 14-Jun-21 00:45:44

There garden is very pretty but it’s not my fault they don’t have anything for him to play with in there. They have a stunning garden furniture etc
Where as mine is an absolute mess but the kids love it 🙈 I don’t even mind if we were in the garden and they asked if there’s could come over and play.
However they have clearly been waiting for us to all be out !

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Womencanlift Mon 14-Jun-21 00:50:49

And it’s that last sentence that makes them a CF! It’s definitely planned. I hope she is on here and realises that she is completely out of order but I’m afraid to say people like that think the world owes them a favour and will no doubt think she has done nothing wrong

UrbanRambler Mon 14-Jun-21 00:59:54

Wow, not just CF but sneaky with it! I would be taking every measure possible to stop them trespassing again, including security cameras. Some people have absolutely zero boundaries. Also, don't allow the neighbour's child onto your property to play with your DC, or you will likely end up providing free childcare while the CF parent disappears for hours, with no second thought.

paniniswapx3 Mon 14-Jun-21 01:01:43

Completely out of order and I'd not be happy about that at all Op. Tell her not to be doing it again as you're not insured if something were to happen to him nor do you want anything damaged (including the fence!).

purplebagladylovesgin Mon 14-Jun-21 01:12:54

Can you afford to get a ring doorbell for the back door? Then it would ping and alert you if they are using your garden. It also records so you have proof they are trespassing.

Not on at all. Cheeky neighbours indeed.

YellowMonday Mon 14-Jun-21 01:18:16

You need to stop this now - there is a liability risk if anything happens to their children.

Have a quiet word to let them know you have installed a ring to record when you are not at home, and put something on top of your fence.

Does your neighbour understand this is trespassing? If there is no change they need to understand this is illegal and you will report it to the police if it continues.

GammyLeg Mon 14-Jun-21 01:19:36

I'd be very worried about the pool safety aspect of a random child coming into the garden!

CCTV time?

ARealHoliday Mon 14-Jun-21 01:29:54

Fuck me that’s bad!
Agree with getting a ring camera. No wiring, solar powered or battery easily lasts for a a month. Higher fencing.

ifIwerenotanandroid Mon 14-Jun-21 01:43:37

Not much to add except support. It's trespassing. Would they be happy if they came home & found your family sitting on their furniture in their stunning garden? And even if they didn't mind, you'd still be within your rights to keep them out of your garden.

I agree with all the suggestions so far. Well, not the spikes.grin

Wheresmybiscuit3 Mon 14-Jun-21 02:09:06

Wtf! Seriously? What a CF! I think that takes the biscuit shock

GNCQ Mon 14-Jun-21 02:27:43

Our NDNs have grandchildren who love ponds, catching newts etc, and we have ponds.

I'd have no problem at all with their grandchildren having a poke around in either pond while we're out. However it's basic human decency to ask first!

CF 100%

partyatthepalace Mon 14-Jun-21 07:18:34


I would go round, tell you not happy - it’s not safe and it’s trespassing. Follow up in writing - focusing mainly on the safety issue. Let them know in both cases you are really concerned about safety and will have a camera installed. You could also up the fencing.

I think it’s v important to put it in writing. You can be polite, but you can also say ‘I am puzzled about how he managed to get into the garden without help’. Important to establish their liability.

TheQueef Mon 14-Jun-21 07:22:17

Necky chuff.

I like it.

bloodyhell19 Mon 14-Jun-21 07:22:24

CCTV, Ring Camera, add some tall plants in pots to your fence line, or even bamboo to the top of your fence.

Your CF & stupid F neighbour doesn't even realize the consequences if her child had an accident on your property let alone the trespassing issue. I think I'd let loose at her 1) for being a stupid parent and 2) for being a stupid neighbour.

ChaToilLeam Mon 14-Jun-21 07:25:42

That is a high level of cheeky fuckery. And terrible parenting, if her child was hurt she would not be able to get over there quickly! You have a pool, no young child should be unsupervised even if the pool has been made safe. I agree, install a ring doorbell, tell them you have it and make it clear this must never, ever happen again.

MzHz Mon 14-Jun-21 07:42:19

Annoyed? ANNOYED?

Is that all?

What on earth did you say to her and will she now realise that your garden is out of bounds?

An0n0n0n Mon 14-Jun-21 07:44:43

Id def eat the cost of high fencing. Problem solved and a clear message.

A ring doorbell might have a monthly cost to retain footage and she can always deny knowing or say they were being babysat or some other lie that needs more confrontation.

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