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Workyticket · 13/06/2021 14:00

Thousands of people are gathering for the Euros and at Edgebasten.

Pissed people hugging and dancing in pubs when someone scores

Boris and his pals flying in from Amber countries had a lovely garden party.

BUT weddings are super spreaders apparently and it's looking like we'll miss out on having friends and family at our OUTDOOR wedding by 3 days if pushback rumours are true.

250,000 couples are waiting for tomorrow's announcement. Could these businesses are facing closure..

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MiltonRoad · 13/06/2021 14:01

But football's far more important 😉

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Workyticket · 13/06/2021 14:03

*countless businesses

Not could these Blush

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OttilieKnackered · 13/06/2021 14:03

Well tbf it is more important to lots of people…

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TotorosCatBus · 13/06/2021 14:05

Yanbu and I'm surprised that they've not changed the rules for this when weddings are a revenue generator for so many businesses.

The football and cricket fans in the stands must be galling for you

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Outbutnotoutout · 13/06/2021 14:07

I agree with you Op

Marriage is a celebration in a person's life that they 1) want to share with family and friends and 2) hopefully will only do once.

I think they should be allowed

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Dervel · 13/06/2021 14:10

It’s tough all round, maybe we shouldn’t be having sports event with mass gatherings either. I do think booking weddings right on the line after a hopeful but not guaranteed lockdown end date without contingencies in place is somewhat unwise. Same with the unfortunate souls stuck in the Portugal holiday scenarios.

I’m not without sympathy it must be a huge disappointment, but when you roll the dice sometimes it comes up snake eyes. If I’d been in the situation where having a wedding now was crucial and time sensitive for whatever reason, I’d have to make provision for making it a somewhat muted affair if needs list with perhaps a blow out anniversary celebration the following year at a first anniversary.

Sad to say these are interesting times.

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tornadosequins · 13/06/2021 14:15

I sympathise, but people claiming that "nobody" is talking about the impact on weddings must have spent the last year and a half under a rock. The impact on weddings has had a huge amount of press coverage every step of the way.

Nobody has bloody forgotten the impact on weddings. We haven't been given half a chance to forget about weddings.

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Helenluvsrob · 13/06/2021 14:18

Don’t you think the footy etc is being allowed to test things out , with an “
It’s your own fault “ if things go wrong ?

Sorry op.

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Workyticket · 13/06/2021 14:21

Booked 2019. Before Covid. Already postponed and re-arranged 3 times. I didn't say nobody was talking about weddings.

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Workyticket · 13/06/2021 14:22

G7 Summit

Canapés
Bbq
Mingling
Drinks
Pats on the back

Sounds not too dissimilar to a wedding

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EuroTrashed · 13/06/2021 14:27

12 attendees plus spouses at G7, outdoors on a beach. A wedding like that would be fine to go ahead.

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wasthataburp · 13/06/2021 14:27

@Workyticket

G7 Summit

Canapés
Bbq
Mingling
Drinks
Pats on the back

Sounds not too dissimilar to a wedding

Completely agree. It's a total slap in the face to the general public who cannot travel to and from these countries or have weddings etc. Yeah it is a complete and utter disgrace frankly
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acupofteamakeseverythingbetter · 13/06/2021 14:29

I feel your pain OP, I moved my wedding from October 2020 to April 2021 and then finally October 2022. It's a kick in the guts when you see all these event happening but weddings not being one is frustrating

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IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 13/06/2021 14:33

@EuroTrashed

12 attendees plus spouses at G7, outdoors on a beach. A wedding like that would be fine to go ahead.

Exactly.
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RancidOldHag · 13/06/2021 14:35

I do seevwhy it's painful.

But the footy and the cricket are running at less than 1/4 Venture can city and each group is spaced (and it's marshalled, so they stay thatbway)

And people shouldn't be behaving like that in pubs - rule of six still applies, and just because sometimes there are breaches it doesn't mean the breaching conduct is approved of.

Not too sure about the G7 mingling rules

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YesIveChangedMyName · 13/06/2021 14:35

12 attendees plus spouses at G7, outdoors on a beach. A wedding like that would be fine to go ahead

They've not spent three days on a beach. And they've had guests flown in from amber list countries seemingly without the usual quarantine requirements. With staff and security there were more than 12 attendees and spouses - I think that part was just for the bbq

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RancidOldHag · 13/06/2021 14:35
  • 1/4 venue capacity (DYAC to my crap typing)
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maddening · 13/06/2021 14:36

I wonder if they could push back but allow wedding and funerals?

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LouNatics · 13/06/2021 14:37

What about funerals?

Ive buried three family members over the covid restrictive period. None were able to have the type of service they would have wanted or expected. One was young sadly and sudden, some ceremony around her death would really, really have helped us and her children. We have been sat here unable to get together with grieving relatives or even give a bereaved parent a hug.

Funerals are things you definitely only get once, and cannot be planned for certain seasons, postponed or done another day. Weddings, barring the legal part, are far less important.

So why focus on weddings?

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Overthebow · 13/06/2021 14:37

You can have a wedding at the moment with 30 people, which is more that the numbers at the summit party. I get it’s annoying, I want restrictions to end too and think they should on 21st, but you can actually have a wedding now.

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BigWoollyJumpers · 13/06/2021 14:38

@maddening

I wonder if they could push back but allow wedding and funerals?

Only if they allow school leavers parties and proms as well Wink? Also once in a lifetime events......
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Workyticket · 13/06/2021 14:38

Hypocrisy at its best

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postnatalworries · 13/06/2021 14:38

I see why it feels pretty galling, however you seem to be one of the people who finds it hard to see why some things are not allowed still. It's very easy to say 'but this similar thing is allowed (G7 conference for instance) so why can't my thing be allowed too?', but a line has to be drawn somewhere- it's not an all or nothing situation.

I do feel for you though, I really do.

My sister had her rearranged wedding last week with just 15 guests and she did have a really lovely time, if it helps?

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LilMidge01 · 13/06/2021 14:42

I can sympathise but also there is nothing stopping you getting married atm. So really its just a party you're talking about and size of party. Weddings are happening.. you just want a bigger party. Same could be said of any party (60th bday etc). 21st june was never set in stone
I feel more for the wedding industry than I do for couples who could still get married and just celebrate differently, or as an anniversary/belated celebration. But then I also feel for people working in the travel industry...doesnt mean I think we should all be jumping on planes. (Many will probably think this makes me awful....I guess we all just prioritise differently though)

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IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 13/06/2021 14:43

@Overthebow

You can have a wedding at the moment with 30 people, which is more that the numbers at the summit party. I get it’s annoying, I want restrictions to end too and think they should on 21st, but you can actually have a wedding now.

People who want to get married, take their vows and make their lifetime commitment can do so and have been able to so for many months during the last year of the pandemic.
The whole big day isn’t needed whatsoever and I certainly wouldn’t be delaying for the sake of a party. I’d be very upset if that meant more to my partner than simply taking our vows together.
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