To think I’ve not been invited to sisters wedding

(139 Posts)
BettyBurntBuns Sat 12-Jun-21 21:40:22

Always had a tuff time with family. Sister sent me a random birthday card 18 months ago and I went to personally message her on What’s App to find I had been blocked.

Considering I had just changed my number and hadn’t messaged her in eight years (just family Whats App chats), I find it a bit odd.

Anyway her wedding is in a couple of months, no invite. I’ve asked my mum for clarity - she’s being cagey. Found out from SIL my sister was asking for email address... and I’m no longer part of the family Whats App group.

So.... I guess not.

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WhenISnappedAndFarted Sat 12-Jun-21 21:46:20

It's a bit odd that she sent you a card and was asking for your email address if she wants nothing from you. Are you sure it was her that blocked you from the Whatsapp group? Who is the group admin?

Disneyforever1974 Sat 12-Jun-21 21:47:33

It sounds like you don’t have a relationship with your sister so why would you be invited to her wedding, especially now with numbers being reduced because of COVID

BettyBurntBuns Sat 12-Jun-21 21:48:34

She wasn’t asking for my email address... I heard from SIL she was asking for email addresses. She’s not emailed me anything.

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BettyBurntBuns Sat 12-Jun-21 21:49:18

@WhenISnappedAndFarted I personally messaged her on what’s app and was blocked. Blocked people aren’t blocked on group chats.

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MadMadMadamMim Sat 12-Jun-21 21:49:29

I think expecting to be invited to someone's wedding - whoever they are - if you haven't messaged them in 8 years is optimistic, to say the least. Particularly if it's in 8 weeks time and you haven't heard.

It doesn't sound like you have a relationship with her, so why would you want to go?

BiggerBetterHealthier Sat 12-Jun-21 21:49:46

You haven't messaged her in 8 years.

So you have gone NC.


BettyBurntBuns Sat 12-Jun-21 21:50:18

@Disneyforever1974 why did she send me that one random birthday card....

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BettyBurntBuns Sat 12-Jun-21 21:51:16

@BiggerBetterHealthier what’s NC? Non contact? Yes I guess so. Not from my side, I did try.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree Sat 12-Jun-21 21:51:41

It might be entirely reasonable that you’re not invited, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt.

BettyBurntBuns Sat 12-Jun-21 21:52:49

@TestingTestingWonTooFree it’s my mum ignoring my request which is also hurtful. It’s not the first thing I’ve been cut out of.... Christmas as well. But hey ho, I’m obviously just a piece of shit.

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Quickchangeartiste Sat 12-Jun-21 21:53:44

Can you call her? Would your Mum facilitate a meeting - coffeeor similar at your mum’s?
If you genuinely want a relationship with her, you are going to have to make an effort. If it’s just about the wedding, I would leave it.

Lou98 Sat 12-Jun-21 21:55:03

So she blocked you 18 months ago after sending you a birthday card? Or you just noticed 18 months ago?

If you knew a year and a half ago that she blocked you I don't know why you would now be wondering why you're not invited to her wedding. You haven't spoken in 8 years, I wouldn't personally expect an invite to anyone's wedding after going that long without speaking

BarbarianMum Sat 12-Jun-21 21:55:07

If you not had to do with her for 8 years then I'd be astounded if you were invited to her wedding.

BettyBurntBuns Sat 12-Jun-21 21:55:17

@Quickchangeartiste my mum is non shallot about her children trying to get on. By the very fact that I’ve been cut out of every family event shows no one cares....

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Viviennemary Sat 12-Jun-21 21:57:12

Did you contact her and thank her for the birthday card. That was probably her making an effort. If not can you be surprised you're not invited to the wedding.

BettyBurntBuns Sat 12-Jun-21 21:57:58

@BarbarianMum she has the same relationship with her brothers, yet I’m sure they are invited. She would also not see her nieces/nephews for birthdays/just for a catch up.... and my other siblings don’t get the same treatment.

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SageRosemary Sat 12-Jun-21 21:58:22

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MarchionessDeCamden Sat 12-Jun-21 21:59:12

Don't be a dick sage

Quickchangeartiste Sat 12-Jun-21 22:00:14

Sorry OP that’s crappy. Can you by pass your mum and talk directly to your sister?
But also, sounds like they keep hurting you. What’s the emotional cost to you of leaving it as no contact ? Do you have kind friends in real life ?

Nofruitta Sat 12-Jun-21 22:00:26

Sorry but non shallot 🤣.
Family members can be very unkind sometimes. It sounds like it’s time to move on. Being related, doesn’t mean you have to friends. Clearly. My family are weird AF. NC for donkey’s years, yes it was horrible at first. I am glad now. Always soem drama lama doing the rounds.

Theunamedcat Sat 12-Jun-21 22:00:35

I prefer non shallot personally

MRex Sat 12-Jun-21 22:01:33

Ignore the card.

Why does your sister not like you enough to not communicate for 8 years? Why would you think she would want you at her wedding when she doesn't like you?

trunumber Sat 12-Jun-21 22:02:03

You're not sorry if you're laughing. Jesus people, so her grammar isn't as good as yours but your empathy skills are pretty shitty, hey?

Theunamedcat Sat 12-Jun-21 22:02:23

Dick sage? Conjures up so many mental images

Personally I would write them off send her a birthday card or a congratulations card if you wish but life is too short for push me pull you games

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