To tell her?

[AmandaHuggenkizz]

NC for this.

My friend has just had a baby. She announced the name to our friend group on WhatsApp. It’s very unusual. Personally, I don’t like it.
To be honest, I more than don’t like it and think it’s a ridiculous thing to call a child.

We all congratulated her and said he’s gorgeous (which he is!) etc but none of us have passed comment on the name.

She’s messaged me separately asking if the name is a bit much.

AIBU to tell her the truth, gently?

[DeusEx]

I wonder why she has asked?

I think generally if she’s announced it then there has been a decision between her and her partner that needs to be respected (if partner is on the scene).

[DeusEx]

Also I am very curious to know what the name is!

[Aprilwasverywet]

Without the name I feel you won't get good advice here..

[SquirtleSquad]

we can't possibly comment without knowing the name..

[CrownKettle]

I’d just respond equivocally and keep well out of it.

[RaeRaeMama]

Really want to know the name

[CrownKettle]

Although if it’s something truly absurd, like Spiderman Princess Shit4brains Smith, you might want to say something.

[Curatingchaos]

Just tell her you love the name !

[DeusEx]

Is the name ‘ridiculous’ because it’s made up? Or because it is just one you don’t personally like?

[AnneLovesGilbert]

Say something like “if you love it then great. I wouldn’t have chosen it but it’s not my baby”

[IceCreamAndCandyfloss]

I would, don’t believe in lying to friends and a child has to live with their name until 18 when they can change for themselves if they like. By then though, the bulk of their qualifications etc will show it.

[Yellowcrockpot]

Give us a similar name type, op?
Then you can get genuine responses..

[TheKeatingFive]

I don’t think people can answer this without knowing the name.

[Wanttocry]

I wouldn’t have mentioned it generally, but if she’s specifically asked I wouldn’t outright lie. I’d be diplomatic though.

[AmandaHuggenkizz]

@DeusEx

I wonder why she has asked?

I think generally if she’s announced it then there has been a decision between her and her partner that needs to be respected (if partner is on the scene).

She’s married but her husband is very quiet and easygoing so I can’t see him being too vocal about it. He is quite traditional and conservative though, so wondering how he feels.

[Sparklesocks]

Like others I think it depends on the name!

[Bluntness100]

What’s the name?

And no. I don’t think you can say anything.

[HollowTalk]

I think if it's a made up name or just ridiculous then you should say, "Well, it's an unusual name, isn't it? What made you choose it?" and then have a conversation about it.

[AmandaHuggenkizz]

@DeusEx

Is the name ‘ridiculous’ because it’s made up? Or because it is just one you don’t personally like?

The former.

It’s basically an adjective with a name hyphenated onto it.

But the again, every name started somewhere.

[Lavender201]

Say “since you asked, I personally think it’s a bit much. But it’s your decision“.

Is there a a nickname/shortening/very similar alternative you could suggest?

[Holly60]

ONLY because she asked you, you should reply honestly but gently.

[thisplaceisweird]

Op you have to tell us the name

I would ask "well what do you think?" and go from there

[Lavender201]

So it’s like Blue-Ryan? You could gently suggest that Ryan Blue (so adjective as middle name) would be better?

[AmandaHuggenkizz]

The name is Navy-Lee.

Very common surname- think Smith or Jones.

[AmandaHuggenkizz]

@Lavender201

So it’s like Blue-Ryan? You could gently suggest that Ryan Blue (so adjective as middle name) would be better?

That’s actually an incredibly good guess given Lee Ryan was in Blue