One of my very close friends got engaged a few months ago.
We’ve been friends for a long time and over the years she has always made references to me being a bridesmaid when she gets married.
This afternoon she tagged 4 friends on Facebook
introducing them as her “team bride”.
I felt really upset about it, but still, I messaged her to say congratulations on the team bride.
She replied saying she really wanted me to be a part of it but it wouldn’t have been right for me.
I replied asking her what she meant by that.
(SEE THE SCREENSHOT OF HER REPLY)
Last year I had a baby and I’ve gained weight since becoming pregnant (nearly 3stone ) I do feel awful about myself, which I’ve told my friend several times.
I appreciate she thinks she’s taking my feelings into consideration, but I feel so hurt at her reasons for not asking me to be a bridesmaid.
All 4 girls she’s picked are super stick thin (as is my friend) maybe size 8/10’s, I’m a size 16/18 and I can’t help but feel I’d ruin the “image” if she picked me and that’s exactly why she hasn’t asked me.
She is right that I wouldn’t feel great in that dress right now, but her wedding isn’t until May next year which would’ve given me plenty of time to lose some weight!!
AIBU to think she doesn’t want me in her team bride because of how I look, she’s thinking more about having “perfect” pictures, and just using my feelings as an excuse?
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To think my friend doesn’t want me as a bridesmaid because of my size...?
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Dandylioness1 · 28/05/2021 21:19
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