My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

AIBU?

Am curious .. do have any unreasonable bias ? ? ? . .. I know that I do and I am not proud😂

456 replies

Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 19:46

I think that we all try to be reasonable and non judgemental. However, I do think we can be labelling and bias at times. I was just discussing in private,with dh , my own pet peeve. He was quite taken aback .. he never judges , is mostly fair . Its made me wonder if many of us have quiet little unreasonable ( and are aware of ) thoughts and judgements .. ?! Meant to be light hearted.😂

OP posts:
Report
MindtheBelleek · 13/05/2021 19:49

Are you talking about racism or, I don’t know, a dislike of people who blow their noses loudly?

Report
TheresNothingIWantMore · 13/05/2021 19:52

We need to know what your pet peeve is...

Report
OwlBeThere · 13/05/2021 19:52

BiasED. you have a bias, you are biased.
That’s my pet peeve and I judge people who say it incorrectly.

Report
Terrazzo · 13/05/2021 19:54

Hmm yeah I can’t judge the tone of this one. Can you elaborate?

Report
Timper · 13/05/2021 19:55

People who say am instead of I’m.

Report
Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 19:56

Absolutely not talking about racisim.
More strange judgements we make , perhaps as a knee jerk reaction , based on our un concious or otherwise bias.
For example , my dh ,tends not to judge people.. however , he tends to judge super rich people without even knowing them ...his hackles canngo up , even tho rationally they should not . Its often our own stuff, or stuff we were taught as a child. For example .. i was never allowed to eat in the street as a child as it was seen as rude. My nose seems to go in the air if I see people eating in shops .. such as a greasy pie, and clothes are at risk of being affected . My judge pants pop on .😂

OP posts:
Report
Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 20:03

Terrazzo
I am talking about things that grate on you , lead you to be judgemental .. when one should actually know better.
Judgements we make ,funny or orherwise ,that we should not, but we do .. not everyone does though.
I think its because I was watching Motherland and it was full of really funny ones .. and actually it was funny as it was ' close to the bone' and reflective of many things that can happen .

OP posts:
Report
ToodleSquat · 13/05/2021 20:03

@OwlBeThere

BiasED. you have a bias, you are biased.
That’s my pet peeve and I judge people who say it incorrectly.

This made me laugh Grin! I judge people a lot on grammar and spelling though. Silently judge though. I'm not a knob.
Report
Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 20:05

OwlBeThere ha ha ! Good example .

OP posts:
Report
ToodleSquat · 13/05/2021 20:05

Not allowed to eat in the street though? So you wait until you get home to eat your Gregg's sausage roll? It'll be cold???

Report
StellaLeonte · 13/05/2021 20:10

Yes I judge everyone and hate most people if I’m honest. I do my seething quietly though. Poor spelling and grammar irritate me but only if it’s someone writing in a professional capacity.

Report
Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 20:10

The not eating in a shop or a street is a good example.
I was not allowed to do that as a child.
It was drilled into me
.
My mind sometimes leaps to judge this when people eat in shops .. before I have had the opportunity to check myself .

OP posts:
Report
UhtredRagnarson · 13/05/2021 20:14

I judge people who called their child nevaeh or even worse, a misspelling of it.

Report
Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 20:16

UhtredRagnarson .. thats the thing .. why ? .

OP posts:
Report
Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 20:19

Mine are..
( a gin down , so I dare say !) .. people who dont open their curtains. Or half open them at strange angles . Makes me feel irritated .
Second. People who allow their dc to eat things in supermarkets. Why ??? Why ??? What is it teaching them ?

OP posts:
Report
GoodbyePorpoiseSpit · 13/05/2021 20:20

I judge your/you’re used incorrectly. I know it makes me a dick. I get grammar wrong all the time which makes this a double dick move. I can’t help it - when I see it.... I think the person writing it is a fool and have to remind myself that WHAT people have to say is a billionty times more interesting and important than thei

Report
wheresmymojo · 13/05/2021 20:20

I used to be biased against Scottish men over the age of 50 because all of the ones I'd ever met were miserable twats.

I wouldn't act on my bias but every time I met a man that fit the bill at work I would think oh here we fucking go, what are the chances that this one will be a miserable misogynistic arsehole.

And they always were.

But I've met two nice ones in the last 12 months so I'm starting to get over it.

Report
GoodbyePorpoiseSpit · 13/05/2021 20:20

Aaahhh - than their grammar.

Report
Puntastic · 13/05/2021 20:21

@OwlBeThere

BiasED. you have a bias, you are biased.
That’s my pet peeve and I judge people who say it incorrectly.

Grin
Report
UhtredRagnarson · 13/05/2021 20:21

people who dont open their curtains. Or half open them at strange angles

Yes!! Hate this. And people who don’t open windows. Yuck.

Report
Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 20:25

I think this post is ,in part , due to the long lockdown.. I used to really enjoy a wine fuelled rant with close pals .. for the sake of it. Half of it not even true .. and we knew it .. just enjoying getting wound up ... and being hariddens .

OP posts:
Report
Tiddleypoms · 13/05/2021 20:27

UhtredRagnarson wonder why it is so annoying ?? Lived in this street and the only neglected looking house has curtians like this evey single day .

OP posts:
Report

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

askingrandomsonlinemighthelp · 13/05/2021 20:28

The way protesters dress (e.g. Extinction Rebellion). I usually agree with them. I'm a vegan, leftie, rad fem. But, the way they dress with their cheesecloth layers and green dreadlocks and bells on their toes and mooncup earrings means nobody will listen to them. Say what you have to say without setting up meditation tents and dancing around with tin whistles and rollies. Take your nose ring out, you're on the fucking telly! You don't look like you're talking any sense. You look like you believe in crystals and fairy folk. Nobody will listen to you. It's a pity it's like that, but it IS, so dress the part and leave the dreamcatchers at home for the weekend.

Report
Thewiseoneincognito · 13/05/2021 20:28

I am hugely judgemental instantly. I have done a top to bottom once over of everyone I meet within a few seconds, from unkempt nails, dandruff and dirty shoe analysis.

I believe it’s a gift, others may disagree 😂🤣

Same with people’s homes, my DP will openly tell whoever we’re visiting they’re honoured I accepted the offer of a drink or food because it’s so rare 😂🤣 call me Hyacinth 👀

Report
majesticallyawkward · 13/05/2021 20:29

I'm super judgey, so many things irritate me it drives my dh crazy!
People who say hollibobs, famalam, fillum and the like
People who use your/you're, they're/there/their, seen/seeing, been/being incorrectly
Anyone out in public in PJs
Anyone using or saying 'making memories' or any other twee bullshit
Gin/wine lover accessories
'Eee I'm mad me' will automatically make me assume you are lacking in any personality
An adult who can't make a phone call
Using speakerphone instead of just holding the phone to your ear or using headphones when in public
Reality TV, anyone who has been on it or watches it (with the exception of the great American bbq showdown, nailed it and the GB sewing bee)
Kids named utterly shit names like Nahveah
MLM involvement in anyway
Parent who dress their dc in overly frilly/spanish clothes, more points deducted for frilly pram liners with the name embroidered

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.