To think sleeping like this is strange?

(34 Posts)
WineGetsMeThroughIt Wed 12-May-21 01:45:43

I'm up late working on a presentation. I'm sat in bed with my laptop. Husband fast asleep next to me.... head completely covered with the blanket. Nose smooshed into pillow. He sleeps on his stomach and often times lays down completely face first into the pillow. He looks dead.

I just do not understand a) how this can be comfortable and b) how he does not suffocate by the morning

I'm so baffled that he does this, and the thought of me having to sleep like that makes my skin crawl. I want to take the covers off him myself just to ease my anxiety lol

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CaribouCarafe Wed 12-May-21 01:55:47

Hahaha am afraid I sleep the same way OP! I usually create a little gap for breathing but am otherwise blissfully faceplanting the mattress.

My DH sleeps with a weird smile on his face - I think that is more odd than how I sleep grin

Asherline Wed 12-May-21 01:56:08

If it was a problem he would have died years ago. However the times my husband is too quiet I nudge him to make sure he's alive. I know he's fine but can't relax until I hear breathing 😂 you would be so much more relaxed if you didn't care 😂

MrsTroutfireVII Wed 12-May-21 02:00:53

I'm laughing at the mental picture of tour husband. 😂 I can't sleep without hugging a sheet or duvet, no matter how hot. I need something between my knees.

WineGetsMeThroughIt Wed 12-May-21 02:15:14

MrsTroutfireVII

I'm laughing at the mental picture of tour husband. 😂 I can't sleep without hugging a sheet or duvet, no matter how hot. I need something between my knees.


Haha I am the same way. But at least my nose is fully clear so I'm not breathing in stuffy hot recycled air from underneath the blanket.

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WineGetsMeThroughIt Wed 12-May-21 02:18:35

@CaribouCarafe how, just how 😂

@Asherline I'm actually pretty sure he also has sleep apnea. There have been times he's stopped breathing for like 20 seconds while sleeping on his back. I've had to nudge him to start breathing again. I guess at least this way - face first, the sleep apnea is better 🤷🏼‍♀️ I've told him about it as well and he doesn't believe me or take me seriously.

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tolerable Wed 12-May-21 02:26:27

i sleep face down mist times.always with pillow over head

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avamiah Wed 12-May-21 02:29:56

WineGetsMeThroughIt,
I’ve been through similar and in the end I couldn’t sleep in the same bed with him as it was like torture, the noise he made snoring and he was always in a deep sleep and taking over all the bed with his arms and legs, it was horrendous.☹️😔.

Stichintime Wed 12-May-21 02:30:02

My husband sleeps flat on his back with a tiny pillow and stays like a plank all night. I often think he's not in the bed next to me he's that still.

avamiah Wed 12-May-21 02:33:46

Stichintime,
I would love that, your so lucky .
🤣

Furries Wed 12-May-21 02:33:47

All sounds perfectly normal! Wait until you see a cat sleeping with its eyes open - that is really blooming freaky!

Asherline Wed 12-May-21 02:35:39

@WineGetsMeThroughIt if you think he could have sleep apnea he won't understand because he's asleep. Like know one knows of they snore or not unless someone tells them. You need to take Charge and get tests or help if you think it's a problem. He could stopping breathing regularly and would cause issues.
Have you tried anything like a fit bit or any monitor. I'd be interested to see because I have phases of sleep apnea and has a period of getting bad, then improves so I don't do anything about it xx

BeingATwatItsABingThing Wed 12-May-21 02:39:27

Yeah, I’d find that weird! I have to have something at least partially over me. If it’s hot, I like sleeping whilst cuddling the duvet so it’s not really over me. Absolutely nothing can be over my face or I feel like I’m suffocating.

WineGetsMeThroughIt Wed 12-May-21 02:47:25

Asherline

*@WineGetsMeThroughIt* if you think he could have sleep apnea he won't understand because he's asleep. Like know one knows of they snore or not unless someone tells them. You need to take Charge and get tests or help if you think it's a problem. He could stopping breathing regularly and would cause issues.
Have you tried anything like a fit bit or any monitor. I'd be interested to see because I have phases of sleep apnea and has a period of getting bad, then improves so I don't do anything about it xx



I've tried to take video / recordings of it and have played it for him. But he is honestly so bloody stubborn and thinks he's invincible. He says it's nothing to be worried about and thinks I'm overreacting. I need to monitor it more closely again and perhaps turn the lights on to get a proper video

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MrsTerryPratchett Wed 12-May-21 02:48:00

Stichintime

My husband sleeps flat on his back with a tiny pillow and stays like a plank all night. I often think he's not in the bed next to me he's that still.

Want to swap?

Stichintime Wed 12-May-21 02:49:57

Can't swap him sorry, there's only room for one 'active sleeper' in the bed and that's me!

TaraR2020 Wed 12-May-21 03:01:02

head completely covered with the blanket. Nose smooshed into pillow. He sleeps on his stomach and often times lays down completely face first into the pillow. He looks dead

This made me giggle, I'm sorry op - I'm blaming insomnia!

I couldn't sleep like that but it's clearly working for him!

Re possible sleep apnoea...How's his health generally: Weight? Is he tired during the day? Etc

Asherline Wed 12-May-21 03:17:08

@TaraR2020 if she thinks it's sleep apnea it might not be working for him though. It's funny if he's just a sound sleeper which a lot of people are and do sleep in random positions. But if she think he stops breathing regularly or could be serious.

1forAll74 Wed 12-May-21 03:21:29

I am an oldie, and sleep alone, and always sleep on my back..I sometimes used to sleep on my side years ago, but then would get a crease down my face, that stayed there for about half the day next day. I then decided, that this may cause wrinkles in the long run, so always sleep on my back now. I am78 now and have no wrinkles on my face at all.

I also have three cats, who usually all sleep in a row at the end of my bed on a fleece blanket. But some times,one or all of them will move positions in the night,and I will subconsciously move my legs to fit them in somewhere between the cats, and end up with bent legs,and horrible cramps in the night.

Furries Wed 12-May-21 03:30:19

1forAll74

I am an oldie, and sleep alone, and always sleep on my back..I sometimes used to sleep on my side years ago, but then would get a crease down my face, that stayed there for about half the day next day. I then decided, that this may cause wrinkles in the long run, so always sleep on my back now. I am78 now and have no wrinkles on my face at all.

I also have three cats, who usually all sleep in a row at the end of my bed on a fleece blanket. But some times,one or all of them will move positions in the night,and I will subconsciously move my legs to fit them in somewhere between the cats, and end up with bent legs,and horrible cramps in the night.

But how do you know that you sleep on your back the whole time - as we all shift about in our sleep?

Full marks for the cat manoeuvres, mine gets the hump if I move a millimetre 🤣

KM38 Wed 12-May-21 03:38:26

@WineGetsMeThroughIt 🤣🤣 must be comfy if he stays like that 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣 don’t think I’ll be trying it though!

My DH sleeps on his side, legs and arms wrapped round the duvet and a pillow like a koala hugging a tree, with his head tipped RIGHT back so he’s literally facing the headboard 😐 weirdo! I honestly didn’t even know it was possible to tip your head back that far until I saw him sleep 🤣🤣

CwidlyDoo Wed 12-May-21 03:45:09

Most of the time, I sleep on my side with the duvet covering my face and most of my head.

I feel too exposed otherwise. It's a bit like not dangling my exposed feet at the foot of the bed in case the monster under the bed grabs them. 😉

OhGiveUp Wed 12-May-21 04:04:31

Mine lays flat on his back with his duvet pulled right up over his head, but kind of wrapped round it so his nose is poking out.
He looked like a bloody parrot dressed in a puffa coat!

confuseddotcomma Wed 12-May-21 04:59:48

This would make me worried about sleep apnoea. Is he tired during the day? Does he snore? Is he overweight?

BeingATwatItsABingThing Wed 12-May-21 05:40:27

It's a bit like not dangling my exposed feet at the foot of the bed in case the monster under the bed grabs them

This is just common sense and good survival instincts. Were a monster, spider or mass murderer to wish to attack me, my duvet will save me!

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