AIBU to use the same baby name?

(105 Posts)
Fluffyslippers123 Sun 09-May-21 22:32:04

Expecting twin boys in a few months and my shortlist of names is only 4 names long.

My sister in law’s sister has taken 2 of the names fairly recently. I’ve only met her once, she lives very far away and probably will only see her and her children every few years if that, but it would leave my brother and sister in law as having two nephews with the same name, and their son with two cousins with the same name

That’s too weird right?

Names 3&4 have been vetoed for other reasons So I’m back to the drawing board. As if naming one child wasn’t difficult enough!

YABU: use the names you like and don’t worry about the other children
YANBU: you can’t use them, too weird

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DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult Sun 09-May-21 22:35:35

They will call the baby 'Fluffys Adam' or whatever the name is. I don't see a problem.

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TwoAndAnOnion Sun 09-May-21 22:36:24

You'd be stuck in an Irish family where everyone is Patrick or Michael!

Use them, your SILs DSis has no impact whatsoever on your own family

Summertime21 Sun 09-May-21 22:37:43

Use the names you like it's not someone you will see often

AnUnoriginalUsername Sun 09-May-21 22:38:22

Use the names. You don't even really know them. If they were your sisters kids then fair enough but you can't not use the names of every child of someone who knows someone who knows you.

Ihaveaskedyouthrice Sun 09-May-21 22:38:49

I wouldn't think twice about using the names in the situation you've described.

SelkieBe Sun 09-May-21 22:38:50

So they children would have the same surname. I know some disagree and say cheerily ''your baby your decision!'' but I would go back to the drawing board. I'd feel a bit sorry for grandparents who had to explain that they have two gc called Patrick Smith.

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Rewis Sun 09-May-21 22:40:34

I just realized that I don't actually know my sister in laws sister's kids names. I know name of the sister (have met few times) and that she has 2 kids.

Go for it. They are so far within the social circle/familiar relations that it does not matter.

FortniteBoysMum Sun 09-May-21 22:41:43

If your that unsure talk to your sister in law about it. See if she would find it weird as she might not. My partners father and his step father both have the same name which consequently is my biological father's name. My father is not in my life but we get round it by the kids know them as grandad Robert and Rob. Could the cousins use a shortened version of the name to distinguish between them?

Fluffyslippers123 Sun 09-May-21 22:43:08

SelkieBe

So they children would have the same surname. I know some disagree and say cheerily ''your baby your decision!'' but I would go back to the drawing board. I'd feel a bit sorry for grandparents who had to explain that they have two gc called Patrick Smith.

No different last names - it’s my brother’s wife’s sister Wife and sister are very close though

Thanks all!

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Dancingsmile Sun 09-May-21 22:43:27

It may feel rather odd for the grandparents when someone asks what their grandchildren are called.
I think I'd think of other names.

partyatthepalace Sun 09-May-21 22:45:13

No it’s fine - it’s more than distant enough.

katy1213 Sun 09-May-21 22:45:15

I can't remember the names of my sisters-in-laws' siblings, let alone their children. You don't even know these people!

TwoAndAnOnion Sun 09-May-21 22:46:28

So they children would have the same surname.

No they wouldn't, SILs sister. Even if this SIL is the OPs DHs sister then the other sister would also be his sister (confused) BUT one might assume they all had different husbands.

Even if the SIL is the OPs brothers wifes sister , still different surnames/.

miltonj Sun 09-May-21 22:46:30

Your sister in laws sister is not related to you! They won't have shared grandparents so I think it's fine smile

Happycat1212 Sun 09-May-21 22:46:49

Normally I wouldn’t like using the same name as someone close despite how everyone on MN seems to think it’s perfectly fine but in this situation I would definitely, my daughter has a very similar name to my nephews dads sister, (1 letter different) I couldn’t care less, I have no relationship with her and our kids have never met

tinytoucan Sun 09-May-21 22:47:25

I think it’s fine. My cousins had 2 cousins with the same name. They called them big Jake and little Jake to differentiate.

Fluffyslippers123 Sun 09-May-21 22:48:12

Dancingsmile

It may feel rather odd for the grandparents when someone asks what their grandchildren are called.
I think I'd think of other names.

No shared grandparents, it’s my sister in laws sister.

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Numbersarefun Sun 09-May-21 22:49:39

I don’t think they’d share grandparents. Just use the names.

somersault Sun 09-May-21 22:50:44

Literally wouldnt even occur to me, use the name!

Anotherdayanotherdollar Sun 09-May-21 22:51:33

Oh that's fine. Go for it

Feelingconfused2020 Sun 09-May-21 22:54:05

I agree with others that you should use the name

Feelingconfused2020 Sun 09-May-21 22:54:20

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TestingTestingWonTooFree Sun 09-May-21 22:58:07

Completely fine. By coincidence, BIL’s 2 BILs have the same name (wife’s sisters DH and sister’s DH). Not confusing.

RachelRaven Sun 09-May-21 23:03:02

Brother’s wife’s sister’s kids? I wouldn't even stop to think about it!

You'd be stuck in an Irish family where everyone is Patrick or Michael! literally my family grin. full of Michaels. But only one patrick.

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