Cashier came and moved me to another till

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Shoutingovertheterraces Sat 08-May-21 20:08:29

For context, I’m abroad, if it makes a difference.
This morning I was queuing up in the supermarket (biggish queues) for picnic things whilst Dp and toddler Dd waited in the car.
One of the cashiers/staff came to me and gently guided me over to another till where there were less people. I just stood there feeling humiliated. She obviously thought I was pregnant.
As she did a changeover with another woman on the till, I saw them looking over at me and the other woman looked at me and shook her head in surprise to the woman who moved me.
Then the one lady in the queue was looking back at me.
The whole thing was very humiliating and I felt like shit all day.
I was wearing a long oversized, striped shirt and denim shorts (quite hot here) I have big boobs and am desperately trying to lose weight (size 16, used to be 10) years of fertility treatments then pregnancy.
I didn’t tell Dp as felt so ashamed, now I feel disgusted with myself when I eat anything.
Cannot believe I’m so fat now that I’m being mistaken for being pregnant.

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Shoutingovertheterraces Sat 08-May-21 20:10:00

*Talking between themselves and looking over at me

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booksandnooks Sat 08-May-21 20:11:29

how do you know they thought you were pregnant? could have been because of the small child with you.
Don't feel bad. baby weight is hard to shift. any weight actually

accentdusoleil Sat 08-May-21 20:11:52

Did you hear what they said ? Why did you think they thought you were pregnant ? What's the connection of opening up another till

Don't let other people's views of you get you down.

Happycat1212 Sat 08-May-21 20:12:23

Did they? I’ve had 4 children and never been moved in a queue for being pregnant confused

Workinghardeveryday Sat 08-May-21 20:12:47

What an idiot that woman was!!!
Take no notice honestly.
I few years ago I was in the changing rooms at new look, shop assistant came with clothes for the pregnant lady and thought it was me. I was a slim size 10.
She could have been crazy for all you know!

mooonstone Sat 08-May-21 20:13:19

I wouldn’t take it personally. They did a nice thing for you and served you ASAP. Your weight may have had nothing to do with it - it’s a basic premise of being a cashier to not allow customers to wait too long. If they can’t handle the queue alone, they radio for till support where a colleague opens another till and serves customers to quickly get the queue down - hence you being asked to join the new till. It could have been anyone else in your position in the queue that was asked to join the new till.


littlepattilou Sat 08-May-21 20:16:26

Sorry @Shoutingovertheterraces but this is a MASSIVE over-reaction.

Why do you assume she thought you were pregnant?

Why are you offended by it?

Why are you embarrassed, and disgusted with yourself?

I have a member of staff offering me the chance to go to another checkout (usually with a smaller queue,) at least once or twice a month. They do it to lots of people!

HilaryBriss Sat 08-May-21 20:16:37

I think you are over reacting to be honest. How were you humiliated enough to feel like shit all day?

A size 16 is not usually so fat that you would be mistaken for being pregnant. Perhaps she was just letting you know that there was a shorter queue you could join, pregnant or not.

For reference, I am a size 20 and nobody has every thought I was pregnant. Well, not to my face anyway grin

swapsicles Sat 08-May-21 20:18:33

I almost said something earlier today when at the vaccination centre the lady checking in asked if it was my 2nd vaccine, I'm only 42! angry I told myself it wasn't because I looked older but not sure why she said that otherwise.
Later on she asked of people were having their first, Its not nice (or flattering) but you just have to ignore and get on with your day 😁

SmileyClare Sat 08-May-21 20:18:41

Lots of women are mistakenly thought of as pregnant. This is really common. I mean it's not as if pregnancy turns you into a disgusting obese whale is it? Pregnant women have bigger boobs and a swollen stomach that's all.

You've put a bit of weight on around your middle. It's not the end of the world. If you do want to start eating healthily and lose a few pounds then you need to change your mindset. You'll never manage to treat your body well when you view it as "disgusting" or shameful. You're none of those things.

Sorry you were upset today, try not to dwell on it flowers

Divebar2021 Sat 08-May-21 20:19:56

Size 16 is not huge at all....why do you assume she thought that ? Maybe they have rules about how many people are allowed to be queuing.

Definately Sat 08-May-21 20:21:16

Literally nothing about their behavior suggests they thought you were pregnant.

SchrodingersImmigrant Sat 08-May-21 20:22:18

I don't think that's cashier tbh. I think that's more how you feel projecting into a situation. It could have been anything. Do you speak the language?

20viona Sat 08-May-21 20:23:11

Absolutely nothing here says that they thought you were pregnant. That's your own self reflection.

Suzi888 Sat 08-May-21 20:23:33

I didn’t get this special treatment when I was pregnant either.
I have been moved to checkouts where there are less people waiting though. hmm

saraclara Sat 08-May-21 20:24:01

Size 16 isn't anything out of the ordinary at all. Are you sure you're not overthinking this? They could have been talking about anything. And the woman in the other queue was probably just looking at you with some envy because you just happened to be the person who was offered a new till. That happens frequently in my supermarket, and the lucky customers seem to be picked fairly randomly.

NoSquirrels Sat 08-May-21 20:24:03

I think you’ve projected a whole heap of stuff onto a small interaction, and you’re clearly sensitive. There’s no reason to assume she thought you were pregnant - they open tills all the time and someone has to go to them - and even if she did, so what? You got a shorter queue!

Please try not to be so down on yourself.

SchrodingersImmigrant Sat 08-May-21 20:24:21


I almost said something earlier today when at the vaccination centre the lady checking in asked if it was my 2nd vaccine, I'm only 42! angry I told myself it wasn't because I looked older but not sure why she said that otherwise.
Later on she asked of people were having their first, Its not nice (or flattering) but you just have to ignore and get on with your day 😁

Lots of people under 50 are having their second jabs... How is that question insulting.

Gizlotsmum Sat 08-May-21 20:25:13

If they had big queues they were probably just trying to reduce them. I think as others have said your insecurities have made this about something it isn’t. Could you hear what was said?

user1473878824 Sat 08-May-21 20:26:27

Sorry OP but you’re being utterly ridiculous. Shops do this all the time whether you’re pregnant or not.

pasturesgreen Sat 08-May-21 20:26:50

OP, I mean this kindly as I'm sorry you were upset, but you're massively overthinking this.

TheVolturi Sat 08-May-21 20:27:28

What country are you in?

Shoutingovertheterraces Sat 08-May-21 20:27:30

Guys, I’m honestly not exaggerating. Had no Dd with me to a previous poster, was on my own. There were around 6 tills open, I was at the far right hand side, people queuing up in every queue. She came down all the queues, specifically to me to take me to the far left hand side queue, 5 or so rows down to a priority aisle (here they have priority for elderly, disabled, pregnant and with small children)
She guided me really carefully, it was really odd!
It wasn’t a case of a new till opening and they call you over to come to the new till, she specifically walked over to get me and take me all the way to the other till, I’ve never had that before. My baggy shirt does make me look huge from the side, not so much from
the front. I then saw them both whispering to each other and looking over at me, it was horrible and really strange!

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Shoutingovertheterraces Sat 08-May-21 20:28:41

I honestly think they were discussing it I was pregnant and the other cashier thought not. Then it was really awkward when the cashier who came to get me was passing my food through. The whole thing was odd and awkward.

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