I’ve returned from a first date, still completely unsure of the cis sex of my date.
We met online, the person identified themselves on their bio as a woman. They certainly looked like a woman, and also sounded like a woman the many times we spoke on the phone.
The only doubt came on the day of the actual meeting. There were several markers that I felt might mean my date may have transitioned at some point.
I do not have a problem with people who have transitioned. I would have happily chatted as friends. It’s the doubt I’m unsure of, and I did not ask for fear of causing hurt or awkwardness. If this is the case, I would imagine the person did not mention it because they want to be accepted and live without being barraged with questions at every turn.
In the end, we spent some hours together, had a nice time, swapped thank you texts when we got home. And that is where we are at...
Has this happened to anyone else?
Am I being unreasonable to wish this had been clear to me somehow one way or another?
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PosterPerson · 20/04/2021 09:06
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