To think that saying 'you can never truly understand what it's like to be a Mother until you are one' is not offensive?

Bluewhiteandgold · 2021-04-17 22:29:42

I found out I was pregnant with DS a year ago today and just put a post on Instagram with little one to commemorate the day. I wrote a little caption to reflect on how my life changed from that moment and in it said how I had never truly understood before what it means to be a Mother and that I've realized you really can't understand it until you are one. A girl I used to go to school with but don't really know anymore commented to say that I was being very insensitive in saying that to people who can't have children for whatever reason. I didn't engage with her at all because I didn't really know what to say. I'll apologise if I'm in the wrong but am I? Is that offensive? Or isn't it just kind of a fact? Whilst I feel incredibly sorry for anyone who wants, but can't have children of their own and I sympathize with them, I don't pretend to know what that is like for them. I don't claim to know what it's like to have a brother as I only have a sister, or to have a pet because I've never had one or to live in a bungalow because I've only ever lived in houses. You can think you understand what something is like and think that you want that thing maybe, but surely you can never really understand anything until you have actually experienced it yourself, both good and bad. I should point out as well, I don't have a lot of followers or anything; most of my followers are people I genuinely talk to regularly with just a smattering of old friends that have lost touch but we still stay on each others social media. My account is private and I don't put hashtags on my posts so it was simply meant to be a nice photo of my little boy and a caption to reflect on the importance of the last 12 months for me to share with my friends and family. If people like it that's lovely but if not, fine. I didn't mean to offend anyone with it and that certainly wasn't my intention but I really can't see what was so wrong with what I said.

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