Hi
I have/had? a friend,not a close one,that lives about an HR&a half away.She always used to msg me first,at least once a day,if not 3 or 4 sometimes!
We both have a daughter,hers is 11,mine is 12,that were home schooled in first lockdown.We both work in a school(not teachers or ta).
We had a disagreement about the home schooling.Her school were very strict on them doing set work,ringing them if it wasn't done to find out why.Our school was not.There was set work,of a kind,but it didn't matter if any of it was done or not.They were very supportive &took a hands off approach but always kept in touch via a Class Dojo system.So we could share things like any work,stories,recipes,photos of them baking,gardening etc.Theyd get points for whatever they did.
They're both primary schools.
My daughter found it very hard in the first lockdown,to do the work,we were both getting stressed about it&arguing.It got very stressful&also at the same time,was dealing with the loss of a close family member.She wasn't dealing with it very well&we ended up having to get help for her.I never told this friend that.
Anyway,she got on her high horse about my daughter not doing the work&that her daughter had to whether she wanted to or not! She told her there wasn't an option! She said&that I could have googled&downloaded resources of work for my daughter to do,even if school hadn't sent any.
I just said well I didn't know the particular sites she mentioned even existed&that we didn't have a printer at the time anyway&that school was more than happy for her to not be doing the work.We baked,etc instead.She wrote the recipe &method out,so was spelling& punctuating..She was weighing things out&changing grams to ounces so that's maths.So school was happy with that.
This disagreement happened exactly 10 weeks ago today&I haven't heard a word from her since!
I just assumed she'd msg me the next morning,as usual,but she didn't&hasn't at all since.
This has happened once before,few months ago,where we disagreed on something else.I expected her to msg,as usual,the next day but nothing.That lasted for 6 weeks til I thought this is ridiculous &msgd her asking why she wasn't speaking to me&saying look we're both adults,this is silly.She said well I could say the same about u! I said sorry,she didn't,but just carried on messaging me again like nothing happened!
Until 10 weeks ago.
Is it me? Should I bite the bullet&msg her apologising again or should I just leave it?
I have thought about doing it a couple of times but then I think no sod it why should it always be me!?
She is also friends with a close friend of mine,who we haven't seen for a long time,even before Covid &also hardly ever messages,but she comes down to stay with her or family that live here&so have days out with her&so is still in my circle of friends so will be difficult as time goes on&we are allowed to go bk to normal life again.
Sorry for the long post!
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Should I apologize again? Is it me?
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babayjane67 · 16/04/2021 09:37
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Am I being unreasonable?
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