AIBU coffee run

(178 Posts)
Starstella21 Fri 16-Apr-21 08:40:50

Please settle a light hearted argument...

Our coffee machine is broken, my partner has got in the habit of making a 10 minute walk in the morning to the local french bakery to grab a coffee.
I've asked if he will get me one he says he doesn't want to carry two back...

AIBU to think this is selfish?!
I want a coffee!!

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Bananacocks Fri 16-Apr-21 08:42:04

What an arsehole!

Maves Fri 16-Apr-21 08:42:18

That's bad and selfish. But why not just buy a coffee machine if you're going to waste money on take outs.

Starstella21 Fri 16-Apr-21 08:43:10

Our coffee machine is off for repair! Should be back next week

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Bumberlee Fri 16-Apr-21 08:43:44

Fucking mean bastard.

Sciurus83 Fri 16-Apr-21 08:44:10

WHAT!!! That is outrageous! What a horrible horrible man!

CuriousaboutSamphire Fri 16-Apr-21 08:44:56

That's not a lighthearted argument. That's him telling you that you are not worth a minor inconvenience.

Weird and selfish!

SatsumasOrClementines Fri 16-Apr-21 08:45:02

That’s so selfish! I absolutely couldn’t imagine my DP saying that, I’d be shocked.

But, if you both want coffee you should be taking it in turns to go and collect it.

LaganinaBubble Fri 16-Apr-21 08:46:11

I would not be happy with that angry
But, why can't you go for coffee for both of you if its so close?

JorisBonson Fri 16-Apr-21 08:46:14


Lassy1945 Fri 16-Apr-21 08:46:56

On paper this seems trivial
But actually it says a lot
An awful lot about how he sees you

LuaDipa Fri 16-Apr-21 08:46:56

That is awful. I can’t believe anyone would be so selfish.

Mellonsprite Fri 16-Apr-21 08:47:33

LTB ! No, seriously very selfish of him!

Angrypregnantlady Fri 16-Apr-21 08:48:02

That's awful. How selfish. I'd never consider going and getting a coffee and not getting DH one as well.

Lassy1945 Fri 16-Apr-21 08:48:14

And you’re pregnant I’ve just read

You poor thing

This is a bad sign Op

MSQuinn Fri 16-Apr-21 08:48:37

That’s really mean. I’d advise stopping something you do for him and say it’s much to hard. What a selfish got!

UserTwice Fri 16-Apr-21 08:48:52

I think it's selfish of him not to get you a coffee if he's getting one for himself.

But I also think it's selfish not for you to offer to go half the time.

So a bit of both really.

LemonRoses Fri 16-Apr-21 08:48:53

I’d be thinking I didn’t want to cook two suppers or wondering if he needed a carer.

Lollypop701 Fri 16-Apr-21 08:50:07

I’m petty... stop doing something for him😂 but not ok tbh

CarlottaValdez Fri 16-Apr-21 08:50:36

Does he bring it straight back or walk around drinking it? If former he’s a real arse, if latter I’d say that’s understandable. I do a long walk first thing and sometimes pick a coffee up for the last bit. I wouldn’t carry a second around for half an hour and it would be cold by the time I got it home anyway.

lemonsyellow Fri 16-Apr-21 08:50:48

Well, as long as you do the trip every other day.

Starstella21 Fri 16-Apr-21 08:51:52

Tbf he does usually make me tea and breakfast in bed each morning

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ChangedName4TheSakeOfIt Fri 16-Apr-21 08:52:23

I don't see where this is lighthearted.

Something so small is very clear of what he thinks of you. (And in case you don't realise, it's not much at all)

Stormwhale Fri 16-Apr-21 08:52:56

My husband would 100% bring me a coffee. In fact I would go as far as to say that if it was only possible to bring one, he would bring me one, not himself. That is so callous op, it says a lot of what he thinks of you and how important it is to him to do things to help or please you. I would be really hurt.

RozHuntleysStump Fri 16-Apr-21 08:54:07

That's actually awful. Thin end of the wedge too, I'll bet.

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