"What's the number? Is it on google?"

(22 Posts)
BoobsOnTheMoon Wed 14-Apr-21 06:29:18

A family member is in need of some support atm, beyond what a non-expert can offer really. I have been sympathetic and supportive but they are Hard Work and I'd really rather not get too involved in this latest mainly self inflicted and fairly minor drama. I suggested via whatsapp message last night, that they try contacting a specific charity (which I named) that will almost certainly be able to help them.

I've just woken up to a reply saying "What's the number? Is it on google?" hmm

This reply will have taken them longer to type than simply googling the fucking charity that I suggested to them! AIBU to just reply "yes" and not google it for them and then message them the number (which is what I assume they want me to do)?

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MajorMujer Wed 14-Apr-21 06:30:25

YANBU at all.

TinySongstress Wed 14-Apr-21 06:30:39

No, you wouldn't be unreasonable.
At some point people have to want to help themselves.

dizzydizzydizzy Wed 14-Apr-21 06:34:44

You're probably not being unreasonable...... although we don't know their side of the story. Are they elderly? Anxious? Is their broadband working? (I sometimes can't Google anything due ridiculously poor broadband)

Lockheart Wed 14-Apr-21 06:35:23

YANBU. Half the posts on AIBU sometimes seem to be from people who apparently have never heard of Google.

BoobsOnTheMoon Wed 14-Apr-21 06:45:12

They are not elderly and they own a smart phone that they know how to use!

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KoalaOok Wed 14-Apr-21 06:46:19

Just say "yeah the number should be on google" or something like that

BoobsOnTheMoon Wed 14-Apr-21 06:46:55

That's why I specified that this conversation was via WhatsApp - they have access to the internet and they know how to use a smartphone! It's not a "can't" issue, more of a "woe is me now plz spoon-feed me solutions thx hun" issue hmm

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Thehop Wed 14-Apr-21 06:48:07

“Yes it should be, do you know how to search for it?” Is putting the onus on them whilst being supportive of theres a chance they don’t know.

Thehop Wed 14-Apr-21 06:48:32

Ah, just seen your reply. YANBU at all

UnaOfStormhold Wed 14-Apr-21 06:59:01

If you want to push back, you could send a link from letmegooglethat.com - basically the link demonstrates how to Google the search term.

MoiraNotRuby Wed 14-Apr-21 07:02:54

How infuriating! I'd say 'not sure, hope so'

WildfirePonie Wed 14-Apr-21 07:09:08

Don't even bother replying.

Or use the letmegooglethatforyou and send the link like pp suggested.

Longingforatikihut Wed 14-Apr-21 07:17:18

I would just ignore. If they can type the word Google on a message they can type it in a URL.

The level of helplessness in some people astounds me sometimes.

LouLou789 Wed 14-Apr-21 07:34:17

What will cause you the least hassle, supplying the number or saying “Yea, they’re on Google” ? That’s the yardstick I’d be using,

Imnotbent Wed 14-Apr-21 07:49:01

If I was going to reply I would say yes it will be, don't ask if they have found it otherwise that opens the way to them saying, no can you help? Always puzzles me why people post on FB or WhatsApp asking for numbers or bus times or menus etc when they are clearly on the internet .

BeenAsFarAsMercyAndGrand Wed 14-Apr-21 07:55:17


What will cause you the least hassle, supplying the number or saying “Yea, they’re on Google” ? That’s the yardstick I’d be using,

Sending the number might possibly save time on this occasion. But it sets the OP up for extra work on all the future occasions when this situation recurs.

PyjamaFan Wed 14-Apr-21 07:55:51

Replying 'yes' has answered their question.

Although I'm sure there are very much aware that they will be able to find the number on Google.

People like that annoy the hell out of me.

I used to host with an online social group and people would ask the most ridiculous questions, such as Which carpark shall I use? How do I get from my bus stop to the venue? I used to reply with a link to letmegooglethatforyou that a PP mentioned.

Beetlewing Wed 14-Apr-21 08:01:02

I've been on your end of this. In my experience it's a way of asking for help with a minor thing that you are definitely capable of achieving for them. I mean it's totally unnecessary and possibly manipulative because it puts you back in the role of helper. I'd give them the name of the org (they may have genuinely not remembered it if they are having a crisis) but not supply the number if you don't want to.

Northernsoullover Wed 14-Apr-21 08:01:14

My friend does this. When we had on campus learning it was constant. 'What room are we in next?' Its on the same fucking timetable that you have on your phone expecting me to check on mine! Grrr. I wouldn't mind if it hadn't been six weeks in and she asked every week. I used to reply 'not sure what does it say on your timetable?'

cricketmum84 Wed 14-Apr-21 08:03:34

This drives me mad too.

Also see - when people post on Facebook asking what time shops are open/where is x pub etc etc

If you can post on Facebook then you can use bloody google!

stablefeet Wed 14-Apr-21 08:04:27

This drives me mad on FB chats. For example, on a horse chat "Concours d'elegance?" I just say "Google is your friend"

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