Back in 2019, Person A asked, in an online group, for help with a job application (she was new to the career.) I didn’t know her but responded to her post. I helped her with her application and she ended up getting the job.
For the last two years since she got the job, she messages me about once a month, sometimes more, with job related questions, asking for my opinion on things or how I would do something, how I would judge something. I have tried to suggest she would be better off asking someone in her workplace but she says her colleagues are unapproachable.
She only ever messages me when she wants something and often doesn’t even respond if I’m unable to help/ don’t give her the answer she wants. Very rarely get a thank you.
She messages me through FB messenger, so cannot read her message without it showing as read. I don’t like to leave it unread as it constantly shows that I have 1 unread message.
It’s in my nature to help others, so if anyone asks for a favour I’ll always go out of to way to help, although people do tell me I should say no to people as often I’ll say yes to something even when it’s not really convenient for me.
AIBU to not want to continue helping her? If not, what do I do? Just not respond? I don’t want to upset her! 🙈
YABU - you should continue to help her.
YANBU - you shouldn’t have to continue helping her.
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Would you continue to help this person?
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Happytohelp1 · 10/04/2021 22:17
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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