I work a super high stress job. It can be quiet at times but when it flares up, I can work 16 hour days with barely a chance to breathe. This week has been like that.
I have a very very close but very demanding friend. She's wonderful but she is in touch A LOT.
This is usually fine and we chat throughout the day but today I told her I literally couldn't chat because I was absolutely snowed under. I don't think I've had a work week so stressful for years.
Nonetheless my friend messaged me incessantly all day. I replied several times to reiterate that I wasn't ignoring her but really couldn't talk. I was close to tears with work stress today.
I was due to go for a walk with another friend after work and did manage to get to it, albeit an hour late.
I needed to massively decompress, so I didn't read or answer my demanding friend's messages (I checked they weren't urgent but they weren't) and went off for my walk.
My friend then text again to ask if I was ok. At this point I lied.
I told her I had cancelled my walk with my other friend and was still stuck working,
I know I shouldn't have lied...I know. I was just tired and needed to not read and reply to her stream of consciousness from the day. I wanted a quiet walk with a calming friend.
This would've been fine and would've given me a much needed breather and break from the screen, except what I didn't know is that she'd already called my au pair (!!!!) to ask where I was (under the guise of checking if I was ok as she hadn't heard from me for hours). My au pair told her I'd gone out for a walk with my other friend, thus revealing my lie.
She sent me a message after to say how hurtful it was that I'd gone out but hadn't replied to her and accusing me of lying (which I was). I managed to convince her the au pair had her wires crossed, but not sure she believed me. I should've confessed right away but my brain was just fried from work and completely blown away that she'd checked up on me, despite knowing exactly where I was and that I was snowed under
I now have to deal with this tomorrow. Both the fact I lied AND the fact that I'm overwhelmed and disturbed that she checked up on me.
AIBU to know I shouldn't have lied but to think this was crazy behaviour on her part?
How would you handle this now? I'm dreading that I have to deal with this when I talk to her next.
This is the second time she's had the hump because I've been too distracted with work (and she's a career woman herself so this really surprises me).
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AIBU?
Or is my friend really overstepping?
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crazyandbeyonce · 03/03/2021 16:37
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