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Page 7 | I would have a different child?(153 Posts)
Saturday afternoon boredom sending me a little crazy....
Just thinking if you and OH had sex an hour/minutes/even seconds later and conceived would the baby be a completely different one to the one you got
We have a DS but if OH had stayed in the shower just a minute longer that fateful day I could potentially have DD a completely different child if the winning sperm was released at a different time.
Crackers I know, is this a thing?
I'm another parent who wouldn't have my second child if I hadn't had a miscarriage. I'm never planning on telling him though. If you were the child would you prefer not to know ?
I had an early M/C (about 6 weeks or so) when I was TTC DC2.
Just before this I'd had a positive test then a heavy period the next day
I wallowed a while then thought Give yourself a break, , get yourself in order ,lose some weight (I did) and don't think about babies for 3 months .
I've discussed it with my DD (she's 18) in one of those conversations you have with an adult DC about Life, The Universe and Everything when the subject turned to it .
Mainly to let her know that it does happen, maybe more than people realise . And in my Mum's day it would happen but they never went to the Dr till they missed three periods so a lot of early M/C were not recognised .
And she survived me having a car accident when I was 5 months pg with her .....she was definately meant to be here !
My eldest DC realised this one day. His ten year old mind was blown by how random his existence was. Then he upset himself deciding that we would have loved any child and said it felt less meaningful.
I wouldn't have my beautiful, creative and dreamy DD20 if my first baby - a boy - hadn't died in the womb at 17 weeks.
Of course I was beyond gutted that my first pregnancy went awry. We found he was dead at my first, rather delayed, scan at 17 weeks when they couldn't find a heartbeat. I had to give birth to him. The baby had Pataus syndrome and had no viable expectation of life so nature took its course.
I had 4 pregnancies to get two healthy births. My cup runneth over - I had a daughter and then a son and I know I am blessed. But it's small accidents of fate/nature what you will that they are here and the people they are. A moment of alchemy.