To award my DC all the points

[SayHelloToMe]

DC is in reception. He is a summer baby so still 4.

When he started school, they gave this class point system to the class. Each day, some kids make it to gold. There is a big fuss of clapping etc.

DC has really set his heart to get to gold. Pre lockdown he was helping TAs clear up after lessons. He is bright, very good at maths, well ahead his peer.

Each day while at school, it was only the naughty kids who made it to school... behavioural issues, learning difficulties... so during lockdown, it was only the kids attending school who got to gold.

It’s painful to see him get his hopes up and never get it.

After I complained to school about home schooled children missing out, they said parents could award kids up to 3 points each day to be redeemed when school starts again.

AIBU to award him all the 3 points for each day of homeschool? He’s done all the homework, helped at home, been flexible around my work, etc.

[LouiseTrees]

Not being unreasonable. Sounds like he’s been good as gold! ( Please pardon the colloquial phrase both meaning getting gold here and the traditional he’s been very nice, on best behaviour etc).

[Hankunamatata]

Who the hell calls kids with learning difficulties - the naughty kids. Your a peach

[SnarkyBag]

@Hankunamatata

Who the hell calls kids with learning difficulties - the naughty kids. Your a peach

Posting at midnight, calling kids with learning difficulties naughty. I’m guessing this thread won’t last long

[BrioLover]

Naughty kids = learning difficulties

Good luck to your son having you as their mother.

[Adskps]

Not really sure how you think there's such thing as "the naughty kids" in reception, these are 4 year olds...or why you've put kids with learning difficulties in with the "naughty" kids?

[SayHelloToMe]

Sorry I didn’t mean that the kids behavioural issues are naughty. I meant it as 2 different categories. They are the ones who get awarded gold.

[SayHelloToMe]

A kid pushed some children while in the toilet and threw water at them. (A whole different thread about supervision).

Wouldn’t this be a little naughty? He made it to gold as he didn’t go it again that week.

[Adskps]

Kids with sen have to put so much more effort into school so begrudging them a few points is nasty

[SayHelloToMe]

What about non SEN children? Why don’t they ever
Get rewarded? Genuine question.

[Adskps]

How could you possibly know that? I really doubt the school said to you "X has been awarded gold because they pushed children in the toilet last week but not this week"

[Adskps]

My son's autistic, and yes he gets things like star of the day etc for minor things other children wouldn't get it for, but believe me he doesn't have the better deal. School is a nightmare for him.

[SnarkyBag]

@SayHelloToMe

What about non SEN children? Why don’t they ever
Get rewarded? Genuine question.

Oh please 🙄🤦‍♀️

[SayHelloToMe]

No I don’t know this. Early in the week, said child was taken away from his peers and had to sit in an office due to his behaviour. He apologised on the next day to the various children he was unkind to. At the end of the week, he made it to gold. A little suspicious right? School publishes Photos of gold winners list each week.

[SayHelloToMe]

@Adskps I mean it’s good if it helps your son.

My child is deflated as he can put all the effort of the world and he will never get to gold. How is that fair?

[user1473878824]

[quote SayHelloToMe]@Adskps I mean it’s good if it helps your son.

My child is deflated as he can put all the effort of the world and he will never get to gold. How is that fair?[/quote]
Holy shit OP.

[Adskps]

Are you joking? If the biggest injustice your child faces at school is being a bit deflated for not getting gold (even though he isn't even in school!?) then think yourself lucky.

[SnarkyBag]

Maybe the teacher just doesn’t like him very much?

[SayHelloToMe]

Sorry @Adskps this thread has got a little out of hand, this really is not meant at you or meant to be taken personally. My question was about awarding my DC the home points.

[SayHelloToMe]

@SnarkyBag no issues with teacher to my knowledge. He’s genuinely a good kid.

[Bbq1]

I would understand if it wasn't for the fact that you actually resent struggling children or children with learning difficulties a little recognition. It may be a huge achievement for them to gain gold. Also, who's to say your son won't get a gold star in the future? If you really want to, why not reward your child yourself?

[Drivingmecrazy2021]

I think you lost the thread as soon as your put learning difficulties in the same category as naughty children.

[Adskps]

The thing is that for god knows what reason you decided to bring "naughty kids" and "learning difficulties" into it, and those of us who have kids with sen in mainstream schools know that "why do the Sen kids get rewarded for xyz but mine hasn't been?" attitude from other parents all too well.

[tyboi]

yikes

[EnidMatilda]

Not sure why you feel like you've got an accurate account of what happened with 'the naughty boy'. Bloody parents. I'm sure your son will get gold. Life lesson, you can work hard but won't always get what you want.

[Nellythemouse]

Why oh why do kids with SEN or behavioural problems always get dragged into this stuff. It’s entirely possible to ask your question without any reference to other children. “My child has tried really hard all year but hasn’t made it to gold yet. He’s getting upset and demotivated - he’s worked really hard at home, would I be unreasonable to give him the points?” Answer, not unreasonable.

There’s no need for the air of jealousy and resentment about children who are likely far more vulnerable and with far bigger problems than your son (who I note you, of course, also have to describe as ahead of his peers and good at maths).