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To think DH should know you don’t wash dirty bed linen at 30 degrees?

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BasinHaircut · 23/02/2021 08:31

I know it’s not the end of the world but honestly, he is 38 and now it’s probably going to have to go on again. He has a sweaty head and pillowcases are unlikely to be clean after this wash. I already have to do our bedding in 2 loads as it’s so big and we don’t have a spare set so it all needs to be dry and back in the bed tonight.

I’m so irritated!

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RiverSkater · 23/02/2021 08:33

Surely it won't matter this one time, have you other clean pillowcases you can use?

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NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 23/02/2021 08:34

It really depends on what fabric you are using, what colour pillow case are etc. If it's a darker or brighter colour 30 can be fine - modern detergents are designed to work at lower temperatures, the higher temperatures kill the biological enzymes that do the cleaning. Also polycotton etc tends to come out cleaner than pure cotton on a low temperature.

If its white/light yanbu, it needs a hotter wash.

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MakeMineALarge1 · 23/02/2021 08:35

Shakes head in disgust at myself.
I only ever wash them at 30.
Just how dirty is your bed linen?
Even my son's dirty playing out clothes get washed at 30. Never any issues.

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Palavah · 23/02/2021 08:36

Surely it'll be fine for once?

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CaptainMyCaptain · 23/02/2021 08:36

I wash most tings at 30 for environmental reasons. What do you think will happen? Are your sheets really filthy? Bio powder works best at low temperatures anyway.

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Kb12 · 23/02/2021 08:36

I wash ours at 30 degrees

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Merryoldgoat · 23/02/2021 08:37

As above. Also, why only 1 set? What if you’re unwell in the night?!

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Meredithgrey1 · 23/02/2021 08:37

I wash everything at 30.
But even if I didn’t, it will be fine just once won’t it? It will be washed again soon enough. Or just re-wash the pillowcase if that particularly bothers you.

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NewScone · 23/02/2021 08:37

I thought it had to be 40 for bed linen. Does non bio kill all the bacteria?

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MMMarmite · 23/02/2021 08:37

Depending on the detergent you use, it can be completely fine at 30.

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Unmute · 23/02/2021 08:37

Everything gets washed at 30 here. It's fine.

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Chicchicchicchiclana · 23/02/2021 08:38

Yanbu. Why do most women know these simple things but so many men don't?

My dh simply forgets this sort of information. He isn't lazy or a housework shirker at all, but he forgets things like this and simple recipes. It's not that he wants to get out of doing them, it's like it's the sort of information that doesn't compute with him.

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Palavah · 23/02/2021 08:38

@NewScone

I thought it had to be 40 for bed linen. Does non bio kill all the bacteria?

Neither bio nor non-bio is automatically antibacterial.
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CaptainMyCaptain · 23/02/2021 08:39

@NewScone

I thought it had to be 40 for bed linen. Does non bio kill all the bacteria?

What bacteria is there that won't be washed off by the water and the action of the washing machine? Bedding needs to be clean but it doesn't need to be sterile.
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Hazelnutlatteplease · 23/02/2021 08:39

Everything should be washed at 30. Better for the environment. Never had a problem

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HelenDrinkwater · 23/02/2021 08:39

Bacteria killing needs a 60°c wash anyway doesn't it?

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Dahlietta · 23/02/2021 08:40

We are also a household where pretty much never is the washing machine on above 30.

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DelurkingAJ · 23/02/2021 08:40

Eh? Bio powder and 30 degrees works fine. You also won’t die even if it is still slightly dirty. Not worth even giving this thought. Maybe it’s exactly what his DMum does. I’ll be showing my DSs to wash like this.

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gamerchick · 23/02/2021 08:40

I always imagine these was at 30 for everything types, also washing their hands in cold water. After all soap is soap.

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wellthatsunusual · 23/02/2021 08:41

I always do bedding on a hot wash but really it's not that big a deal. The washing machine jiggles it all around and jiggles all the nasty stuff off to a large extent anyway. The bacteria might not be dead but they're mostly in the water that got rinsed away. I'd put it back on the bed and forget about it and then go back to the usual temperature next week.

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WonkyCactus · 23/02/2021 08:42

I also wash everything at 30 degrees. It's fine. Maybe your DH is wondering why you don't know this?!

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LizzieBirmingham · 23/02/2021 08:42

I wash my sheets at 30, doesn’t seem to be an issue! And even if you don’t usually wash at 30, once won’t be an issue.

Surely your life would be so much easier if you had a second set of sheets? You could do a wash and dry at your leisure with clean sheets at your disposal.

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HeronLanyon · 23/02/2021 08:43

I wash a lot on cold! Lightly soiled normal stuff - short cold wash seems absolutely fine. No skin conditions here to worry about etc.
Bedding on 30 with some laundry ‘bleach’ (enzyme stuff) which is honestly amazing. Bedding comes out so crisp.
I Alternate 30 wash with a hot wash for bedding and towels. Never the hottest (which takes my machine around 3 hours!).
White towels are now around 10 years old and lovely and white still. (And perfect age softened)

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Bluntness100 · 23/02/2021 08:43

I don’t understand also how dirty it must be to have to wash it a second time. How often do you change the beds?

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LizzieBirmingham · 23/02/2021 08:44

I always imagine these was at 30 for everything types, also washing their hands in cold water. After all soap is soap.

Guilty as charged 🙋🏼‍♀️ Is soap not, in fact, soap...?

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