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To not allow DH into our house for 10 days?

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MrsJE Tue 26-Jan-21 21:33:02

Opinions needed please.
DH is at work this evening and came across a man who was slumped on the floor and not responding when asked if he was OK.
DH phoned 999 and they asked him to do chest compressions on the person as his breathing was shallow, which DH did until the ambulance arrived.
DH recognises the man as one of the local homeless that sleep near his work and it appears he may have taken spice.
Now, my dilemma is I'm 50yrs old and have spent half my life in and out of hospital with asthma attacks. We still have two children living at home and we are also raising our grandson who has additional needs. DH himself is 52 and has a blood disorder that he is on long term medication for. We have tried to be careful during this pandemic, we're not shielding as DH works in an office (either alone or with one other person at a time) and grandson attends school of a morning as he is classed as vulnerable but, we keep to the rules and do as much as possible to minimise our risk.
I now feel DH should stay in our eldest sons spare room for 10 days but DH thinks I'm being ridiculous.
Am I being unreasonable?

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FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken Tue 26-Jan-21 21:36:38

He has come into contact with one person who there was no evidence of covid. Your grandson attends school and comes into contact with lots of people. It doesn't really make sense.

snowy0wl Tue 26-Jan-21 21:48:08

I agree with FFSAll. Has our society really reached a point where we will punish people for helping others in distress? So sad. 😢

cheninblanc Tue 26-Jan-21 21:51:30

Yabu. For the same as above

BeardieWeirdie Tue 26-Jan-21 21:51:54

Are you thinking his shallow breathing was caused by Covid? If not, your reaction is extreme.

MrsJE Tue 26-Jan-21 21:52:35

To be fair staying with our son for 10 days is no punishment, I might go myself instead for the peace quiet and rest grin

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Nicknacky Tue 26-Jan-21 21:53:53

Please don’t underestimate the trauma your h has went through tonight. He will need you near him.

What has happened to us?

MrsJE Tue 26-Jan-21 21:55:34

@BeardieWeirdie yes this is what is going through my mind, nobody really knew what was wrong with him but the paramedic said he may have took spice as that's a common problem in that area.

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Calmandmeasured1 Tue 26-Jan-21 22:01:50

He has come into contact with one person who there was no evidence of covid.
You cannot necessarily tell if someone has Covid or not. Have you not heard of asymptomatic transmission? During the pandemic, I would assume this person has Covid unless told otherwise.

OP, YANBU. I have just read out your post to my DH and he immediately said that he would isolate as it is very likely a homeless person could come into contact with multiple people with Covid (I think he has assumed I meant someone begging).

tootiredtospeak Tue 26-Jan-21 22:05:53

People have gone fucking mental and this thread just proves it. I honestly despair

BudgieHammockBananaSmuggler Tue 26-Jan-21 22:06:26

I would think a homeless person mainly living in outside or open places would be less at risk of catching covid than a person going to the office or school etc.

Stompythedinosaur Tue 26-Jan-21 22:07:01

This doesn't quite make sense - no one would do chest compressions on someone with shallow breathing, they would be if you believed their heart had stopped.

I think it would be an overreaction to ask someone to stay elsewhere when they are not symptomatic and haven't even had contact with someone with confirmed covid.

Cheesewiz Tue 26-Jan-21 22:08:25

Yabu if your sending your grandson to school and mixing with others and then expect husband to isolate for being in contact with one person

Valmur Tue 26-Jan-21 22:08:39


People have gone fucking mental and this thread just proves it. I honestly despair


OrigamiOwl Tue 26-Jan-21 22:09:52

Is your house jointly owned by the both of you? Not allowing him in his own home for 10 days, especially if he jointly owns it seems quite harsh...

Embroideredstars Tue 26-Jan-21 22:10:52

Was he wearing a mask?

In the hospital we wouldn't be wearing any more than a surgical mask if a person collapsed in our department and would be expected to do chest compressions.

bumpdownthestairs Tue 26-Jan-21 22:11:51

Helps possibly save someone's life then gets asked to move out his own home for 10 days 😬😂🙈

ChairinSage Tue 26-Jan-21 22:12:42

I hope you read this post back to yourself in 5 years time. Hopefully the human race will have recovered some amount of compassion and kindness.

Emeraldshamrock Tue 26-Jan-21 22:12:43

Yabu. If you are truly terrified ask him to sleep in a different room and wear a mask around the house.
There is no way he'd be doing chest compressions if the gent was breathing.
I'm glad he helped lots of people are to scared these days.

WingingItSince1973 Tue 26-Jan-21 22:12:51

Why would you want someone you think has been near a possible covid person to spend 10 days in a room with your 10 year old son? Maybe I read it wrong. Your husband has been through an ordeal and needs his own bed and comforts. I've sadly found someone who was high on spice collapsed and it was very frightening. He was shallow breathing and the ambulance was called. Its horrible to see. The chances of the chap having covid is extremely slim. I wouldn't worry too much.

Freddiefox Tue 26-Jan-21 22:12:59

I think your dh is amazing.

WingingItSince1973 Tue 26-Jan-21 22:13:42

Sorry my mistake. Your eldest sons spare room and hes not 10 years old ha ha. I need my bed xxx

oldegg123 Tue 26-Jan-21 22:13:53

I think a lot of posters are missing the point.

Your DH was in a high risk situation (ie very close contact) with a high risk person (someone who is homeless). It would therefore be sensible to isolate. It’s not a punishment!

You are a tad U for referring to the man as an homeless’ however

ChelseaCat Tue 26-Jan-21 22:14:03


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