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To have lost all motivation for anything

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Pleidiolwyfimgwlad Mon 18-Jan-21 17:30:44

Is the endlessness of lockdown getting to anyone else? I seem to have lost all motivation for tidying the house, cooking, homeschooling, my job - all of it.

Me & the kids walk every day but that’s about it - it’s the relentlessness of it all that’s really getting to me I think. I just want to sit about eating toast & sleeping- I’d take to my bed if I didn’t have kids to look after.

I have quite a big job at a uni too and even the thought of it makes me feel depressed. It’s awful- I am fed up of my colleagues and they are lovely people so I feel bad.

Aibu to have just lost all mojo? I don’t think I am depressed- just OVER it all- I don’t even know what I need at the moment!

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formerbabe Mon 18-Jan-21 17:32:36


maggiemuff Mon 18-Jan-21 17:33:58

Same here

Wearywithteens Mon 18-Jan-21 17:35:07

Me too OP - and all spent all of last year wondering why people couldn’t get a grip. Now it’s me who can’t! I’m usually pragmatic and hopeful but I just feel completely flat and have no motivation for anything.

BornIn78 Mon 18-Jan-21 17:36:23

Same. I’m thoroughly fed up and bored.

And if I see one more happy-clappy “inspirational” meme on social media telling me to practice self care hmm - I honestly can’t roll my eyes any harder.

HitchFlix Mon 18-Jan-21 17:36:31

At least you get the kids out for a walk every day. I can't even be bothered with that...

devildeepbluesea Mon 18-Jan-21 17:37:30

It hit me today really. Lockdown was so much easier in good weather. The next 2 months or longer will be SHIT.

afaloren Mon 18-Jan-21 17:39:06

Same. If I empty the dishwasher and put a load of laundry on it’s been a productive day. It’s crap because I used to be such a busy bee. Now I cba with anything.

nomoreafool Mon 18-Jan-21 17:41:32

Same here

Had a very hard day with a non motivated difficult dc with home schooling today and the constant back chat I can't get away from is getting to me.

Fingers crossed tomorrow's a better day

Plussizejumpsuit Mon 18-Jan-21 17:42:33

I go through ups and downs but overall I can't be arsed with anything. I'm really busy at work right now. If I wasn't I couldn't motivate myself as I struggle even now. I lie in bed most days after work. I'm here now!

No answer but you're not alone.

FiveNightsAtMummys Mon 18-Jan-21 17:43:02

Yes, totally fed up. It's got to the point where I hate getting dressed.

listsandbudgets Mon 18-Jan-21 17:45:02

Feel the same.

Getting year 4 DS to do distance learning is draining and it means I hardly give any attention to well behaved and hard working year 10 DD.

Running a wash and emptying in the dishwasher comes under major achievement territory - actually must try to do a wash.

I'm sick of cooking lunch every single day, sick of trying and failing to do my job... I'm bored, bored witless... I'm even bored of netflix.

When the most exciting part of your day is trying to get a reluctant 8 year old to construct a sentence using a bl**dy fronted adverbial you know that things are bad.

formerbabe Mon 18-Jan-21 17:46:32

I'm so bored of making meals and clearing up after meals. If it was just me, I'd live on crisps at this point

listsandbudgets Mon 18-Jan-21 17:46:44

Oh and I'm living in joggers and hoodies because I cant be arsed to put on anything nice and anyway what's the point no one except dp and the kids will see me anyway.

livefornaps Mon 18-Jan-21 17:48:01

Yes I am usually a bit of a lazy bum about getting out of bed, but once I am up, I am up and go go go. Like, at weekends I might have a long lie in but then get up, be out the door in 15 minutes, go for a coffee and then meet friends and then be out all evening. Now, I am struggling to feel a point to even venturing out of bed. It's so cold and I just do the same walk over and over. FML

notalwaysalondoner Mon 18-Jan-21 17:51:01

I have a great job working on a topic most would kill to work on while getting paid well - normally it’s only really done by NGOs. Yet I am so unmotivated I spend hours every day on Mumsnet... it’s not just you

Unanananana Mon 18-Jan-21 17:51:27

Same here. Same comfy clothes everyday, wfh 9-3 with dim customers who could trying reading things for themselves before whinging at me try to homeschool my 10yr old DS and fail to homeschool my 12 yr old DD at the same time (luckily DD is motivated and has her own laptop now). Walk my DS like a frigging laborador for 40 minutes in the local FREEZING COLD park. And, my god, the constant snacking and washing up.

I'm so done. And I want toast.

dayslikethese1 Mon 18-Jan-21 17:52:07

I always feel like this in January (though this year is probably worse). I am coping with it by setting really really low bars for myself and also having a SAD lamp.

Silvergreen Mon 18-Jan-21 17:53:11

Absolutely. It's awful.

minipie Mon 18-Jan-21 17:54:37

YANBU. It’s like Groundhog Day. Nothing is awful (and I’m very grateful for that) but it’s just the monotony. And the home schooling 😬

No point even planning much for later in the year as who knows what will be allowed.

I have taken up running (couch to 5k) and that is helping me keep sane at the moment. It’s my one bit of child free time and makes me get outside. I’m not working though so appreciate those trying to wfh and home school may not have time.

nevermore Mon 18-Jan-21 17:55:36

Totally same. I have a job, a course to study for, teenagers, dogs, husband and 2 x mothers but just want to hide from them all.

Si1ver Mon 18-Jan-21 17:56:08

Same, same, same

It's so so relentless at the moment. There's no joy, nothing to look forward to, nothing to plan for. There's just more worry and anxiety and waiting for the next axe to fall. Will the nurseries close? Will I have to go back to juggling a 60+ hour week with looking after a one year old?

Oh and the endless fucking mud and cleaning at the moment.

Chilver Mon 18-Jan-21 17:57:20

Just had this exact conversation with DH. I am unmotivated and bored. Last year I coped really well; this year, not so much! Constantly feel under the weather, but not enough to take to my bed (although I'd love to!) and although I have mountains of work piling up everyday, I just cba, just being reactive instead of proactive - basically sick of dealing with everyone else's Covid issues and doing my team's work instead of them doing it!

Sexnotgender Mon 18-Jan-21 17:58:08

YANBU. It’s relentless. There’s nothing fun in between all the shitty drudgery.

minipie Mon 18-Jan-21 17:59:46

DC2’s teacher asked them all on Zoom today to say something fun they did at the weekend.

Most of them said “watch a movie”

We are out of inspiration

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