I had to cut short my weekly food shop and pick DC up from nursery because he wouldn't nap..

[Halfaweeklyshop]

I work PT usually but I'm home for the foreseeable because my place of work is closed due to covid.

I do my weekly shops on a Monday now when my eldest (3) is at nursery until 4.30

1.15pm I get a call from the nursery asking me to pick DS up, I'm in the middle of Sainsbury's at that point half way through my shop and miles away.

They wanted me to collect him ASAP as he was refusing to nap with the rest of the children (they all nap in the afternoon) and because he didn't want to sleep he was having a meltdown and disrupting the others.

I had to pay for what shopping I had in the trolley, half of what I needed, and walk the 2+ miles from the shops to nursery to pick him up early with my baby in tow who I was going to put down for a nap at home after the shop.

AIBU to think this was a bit shit and they could have just taken him out of the sleep room and done an activity with him / played a video with one of the several staff members on? So the other children could nap interrupted.

Was it really necessary to have me pick him up early?

I've also been asked to pick him up at 2pm again tomorrow, because they don't want the same thing happening again.

It's a good job I am off work at the moment as there's no way I could make a habit of this, I'd get the sack.

Thoughts?

[thaegumathteth]

I've no experience but that sounds batshit to me. He's 3 - how many 3 year olds nap?

[schafernaker]

They expect all 3 year olds to nap? DD is 2 and frequently refuses her nap at nursery, they have activities ready for the non nappers!

Are they reducing your fees to go with the reduced hours?

I’d certainly be less than impressed

[Mumofsend]

The nursery have lost the plot. Id be moving him elsewhere

[Halfaweeklyshop]

@thaegumathteth

I've no experience but that sounds batshit to me. He's 3 - how many 3 year olds nap?

No idea, I was under the impression people drop the afternoon nap from 3.

He's not the oldest there neither, the children are aged 2 - 5.

[Mylittlepony374]

That's wrong for a lot of reasons. No naps for 3 year olds in my kids nursery. When my 2.5 year old stopped napping& the rest of her room still were they either sat her in the corner with some books (on a compliant day) or took her to another room. You shouldn't have to pick your son up in this instance

[strawbmilk]

My 3 yo DD hasn't had a nap since she was 18months!!!!
I don't know if any 3 year old that naps

[LivingMyBestLife2020]

Absolutely not! I’d have said I’m sorry, I’m working and unless it’s an illness or emergency, I cannot get there. Same with tomorrow!

[Minnie16889]

Wow completely unacceptable, you can not force a toddler to have a nap and to ask you to collect him because he was being disruptive due to refusing

[Bookaholic73]

@Mumofsend

The nursery have lost the plot. Id be moving him elsewhere

This.

[UrAWizHarry]

Yeah, that's absolutely nuts.

3 year olds have usually given up napping by then and I would be deeply unimpressed if my nursery requested I collect my kid because he/she was refusing to do so.

I'd be having a stern talk with management.

[MaMaD1990]

This is ridiculous! Surely they're well equipped to handle a child that doesn't want to sleep...I would be asking for a conversation with the manager about this or move him elsewhere. Shocking.

[nanbread]

That's really poor, and worrying frankly. Are you sure that's the real reason?

[Halfaweeklyshop]

DS receives the 16 hours government funding and has that split into two full days, any refund wouldn't come to us it would have to go to the council.

Coincidentally, when I've asked to bring him in later in the morning I was told it wasn't possible. Alot of people suggested that may be due to the fact he's in receipt of the funded hours therefore the nursery are obliged to fill them.

So it seems they can detract from the hours when it suits them but I'm not able to alter them to suit me.

[namechangetogamechange]

That's mental. I'd be really cross

[Smurf123]

My almost 3 year old hasnt napped since he turned 2.. I actually told nursery I didn't want them putting him down for a nap when he started in August as if he naps he doesn't sleep at night.

[Marzipan12]

Their expectations are unrealistic. My youngest stopped having a nap at 18 months.

[aSofaNearYou]

This is very odd. They have nap time at my DDs nursery but she never naps and it isn't an issue, and she's 2. Could it be a Covid thing? - Perhaps they would usually take a child that is disrupting naptime into a different room but are unable to mix rooms currently? It's a bit shit of them not to find a way around that given you are paying for the service, but perhaps that's what's prompted it.

[nanbread]

Just tell them no, they are being paid to care for him.

[Halfaweeklyshop]

The best bit about this is my DS has autism and the nursery is a special nursery for disabled children. Go figure

Some of you may recognise me. I've had a few posts on here over the past year asking for POV's on various issues that have made me a bit but as he's my first in nursery - and given they are supposed to be specialists - I often don't trust my own judgement.

[listsandbudgets]

I'd be looking for a new nursery personally (easier said than done in lockdown I suppose).

A nursery that can't deal with a 3 year old who happens to be awake is not one I'd wish to leave my child at. Both DS and DD went to nurseries where they had nap time but those who didn't want to were taken into a side room and read a story and watched a bit of TV. DD's nursery called it Calm Time

[PuppyMonkey]

What if you’d been at work? Would they have expected you to leave as he wouldn’t have a nap? Imagine telling your employer that!

[SacreBleeeurgh]

Yes that’s insane. My 3 year old’s nursery they wouldn’t be able to attend if they still needed a nap (school-attached).

[NoOneOwnsTheRainbow]

That's ridiculous. Can you complain to the nursery manager? What's the point of having childcare that's not actually caring for your child?

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

Wtf is wrong with your nursery. DD rarely naps now, the nursery would just have her in a different part of the nursery whilst the others sleep.
How dare they be so lazy to say they won’t have him unless sleeping.

[FutureDuchessofHastings]

I can't believe this! Utterly unreasonable. They of all people should know that three year old don't often do what you'd like them to do. This sounds more like a 1950s orphanage than a nursery with them expecting all the children to sleep at the same time despite their individual needs. Do they rely on that time for staff breaks or something? Why else couldn't a member of staff supervise him playing with something of doing another activity? And to ask you to collect him early tomorrow is completely out of order. I'd make it clear that you will not be paying for these afternoons if they think they can pick and choose when he stays rather than you choosing what suits you best.