I have a Child Arrangement Order with residency for my grandson (5). His mum DD still has PR. We are in a support bubble together. GS sees his mum most days. DD is in a volatile relationship with someone who is not GSs dad. I (but not courts) have said GS cannot be at mums house if partner is there. Partner is kind to GS and they have a good relationship but police have been called many times about their volatile relationship - 6 of one and half a dozen of the other. Their 3 year old daughter who lives with DD has spent time in care and currently on CIN plan because of it.
Anyway Friday evening DD assured me partner was not there and it was fine for GS to stay over. I found out the next morning that he had been there with them over night. Today we have all spent the day at DDs home but things are once again rocky with partner. DD has been on edge all day and screamed at GS. I said we would go home but she has refused to let him go. I have come home after an ear bashing. GS wants to be with his mum and wouldn't come with me. I am worried that partner might come over and there will be a scene although it's just as likely he will stay away (which is what is annoying dd). I know this all sounds rather chaotic and the reason we don't have a proper contact arrangement in place is because when I got the Child Arrangement Order, DD was living with me.
So what can I do?
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Oilyvoir · 17/01/2021 18:08
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