How to bag a wealthy man?

Absolutely - start with the good person and work as a unit for economic success for both of you. Good people; fun, witty bright people, hard workers, committed and loyal people tend to do better in careers and in relationships.
Id say choose a partner with similar life goals and core values, look to the long term and then the rest often follows. Perhaps not Branson type rich but comfortable - which is a whole lot better than poverty.

LadyfromtheBelleEpoque I couldn’t agree more- temperament is so important. My friends’ husbands will mostly retire soon and will be around all day.. some of my friends are panicking saying “married for life but not for lunch!” but I can’t wait .

@Ibizafun

I would agree- I think you have to start with someone you would enjoy spending time with - someone whose company you enjoyed based on their temperament, humour, attitude, shared interests, manner - those things matter. I think it is so depressing thinking about men as dollar signs - how could you build a decent relationship on that? Money does come and go - you’ve got to look at who you are left with when you strip all of that away, surely? Are they decent, kind, in it for the long haul?

What I was looking for after my divorce was someone bright but also kind. I found him in dh who like me had no money after his divorce but has since we married gone on to be a very high earner.

Money comes and goes though.. you’re left with the person so it helps to be with someone you love and respect.

With a name change so the posters I regularly speak to don’t think I’m a total knob...

I’ve had 4 serious relationships, 3 with seriously wealthy men

ExH - met when I was 25, he was a trader in the city. We met through friends and I actually spent 6 months trying to set him up with my friends before we got together, got engaged after 2 years, married a year after that but spilt after 3 years because I wanted children and he didn’t
He is now in a LTR with a woman he met skiing. They won’t marry because she gets a very generous amount of spousal maintenance from her exH which stops if she remarries

I then went out with a minor aristo. Went to Eton, family owned a £10m house in Kensington and a family pile in Gloucestershire, had a low paying job but a huge trust fund and mortgage-free mews house in Notting hill
Met him on Match.com

DH. Very senior job running a company.
Has family money but other than a deposit for his first house, is self made
Met him on Match.com
Engaged after a year, married a year after that

I wouldn’t say I’ve deliberately set out to bag them, but I’ve ‘fished in my own pond intellectually and financially
While I haven’t earned as much as any of them, I was earning a six figure salary in my late 20s so I doubt I came across as a potential gold digger, and could hold my own in a chat about burgundy vintages or economics

Oh, that's nice to hear, a happy match. Maybe women on here have a point?. Quote my parents, "when poverty comes in through the door, love flies out of the window". However, there's not enough money in the world to compensate for a bad marriage, great advice from your mum.

@longwayoff

I heard that one!

Or how about ‘love never bought the pram’🤔🤔🤔🤔

I was lucky i guess in that my parents married for love and are joined at the hip. Mum always said you are better off single than with someone you don’t love. Makes you wonder about the messages other women get

Ok. If we're quoting grannies, 'all fur coat and no knickers' might be the way ahead. Or not.

Please stop thinking that way ! My Grandma used to sing 🎶 She’s only a bird in a guilded cage🎶

What a depressing thread

They're not a special, magical species. They're still blokes. Just with more money. Women get involved with them the same way they get involved with broke men, or financially comfortable men

@longwayoff



Or find the exit and open the door ourselves...but we mustn’t abandon the sisterhood in their hunt for Prince Charming and his millions.

What we need BelleEpoque, is a rich man with a fast car. Or a Tardis.

@longwayoff

Looking for the exit, too😕

Mykidshave4legs I have been in this job a good few years now - so not a new job at all. Children growing up was a good time to redress the balance and meant i had time to focus on my career properly again.

Ah OK, but is telling men how confident you are and how you will save them time by not having to reassure something that works in bagging a wealthy man? Is it some sort of high pressured sales technique?

I guess I'm the stereotype you describe, but I haven't got a wealthy man, as I tend to just go for looks, not money. And I don't need constant reassurance either. I just couldn't pick out men for their money.

I suspect that wealthy men, like other men, go for varied personality types. Some will like that vulnerable type who need constant reassurance, just as much as any man.

I seem to have encountered a 1950s timeslip. Is there anyone out there from the late 20th century? Later? Help me please.

@CherryRoulade

That's wonderful!
I bet he is so appreciative of all your sacrifices and congratulations on your job!

@GreenlandTheMovie sorry, the above message was for you

By unconventional, I meant not the stereotypical slim, blonde etc.

I dress well and elegantly present myself.
I don't claim to be any more special than anyone else by having confidence, was just trying to convey that having interests of your own, being widely read and confident in your own skin (whatever that looks like) is important.
No one, especially a busy man, has time to be constantly reassuring insecurities.

I'm sure the majority of us would like to be wealthy but not to the detriment of love.

To have love, money and respect for having earned the money yourself would be ideal!

The stereotypes on this thread are bonkers! “Wealthy men” are no more one homogeneous category any more than “plumbers” or “tall men”. Some are lovely, some are atrocious. Some are philanderers, others are devoted family men. Etc....

That's so sad and degrading

There’s always a pay off with wealthy men. And a serious power imbalance. From what I’ve seen with friends who have gone after them anyway.
I’d rather be skint and happy on my own than sell my soul and trade in my self respect.

I am aligned with you, as happens.

I am no longer a low earning part-time or SAHM, but I was and my husband would not have been anywhere near as successful had i not supported him. Certainly not freeloading but very hard work and compromising a career for the greater good of the family.

My willingness to be the supporting role meant we both benefitted enormously. I am now back in a well paid job which I enjoy very much and for which I have his full support.