Saw another thread where the OP told her DP exactly what she wanted for christmas and offered to send him links. In that couple they also have a budget.
This just made me wonder if I've been doing it wrong 😂 I totally get that it's better to not waste money on something someone doesnt actually want, and also that christmas and birthdays can be a good time to be gifted something maybe you couldn't otherwise afford.
But last time I explicitly told or asked someone about gifts was when I was a kid!
Now with all my past partners and present, we just give the other person something we think they'd love, maybe something they've alluded to, or something we know they need or want. That way it's a surprise and also...I dont know, I just cant imagine flat out saying: "I want this bag, it costs this much, heres a link".
I guess it just feels to me like it takes all the fun out of being surprised and surprising. It's a great feeling to open something without knowing what it will be. And also nice to have found the perfect thing, and knowing you're going to surprise someone with it.
I've also never had a "gift budget talk" with someone.
So what do you do?
YABU = Specifics and budget talks
YANBU = Surprise factor
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To wonder is this normal re gifts?
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CrotchBurn · 05/12/2020 23:47
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