I have a FWB who I see every couple of weeks (lockdown permitting) and he's an amateur photographer. He likes to photograph everything and everyone, including me.
I usually humour it but I'm not feeling very comfortable with my weight at the minute and he insisted on still taking photos aswell as me wearing things that aren't flattering for my current body type.
After taking one or two he said "erm yeah that's enough of those" which is unusual as he usually takes plenty.
I'm aware that I've put on some weight, I couldn't say how much as I don't own scales (I used to have an E.D so I avoid weighing myself for the sake of my mental health)
I'm a size 12 now after recovering from a gaunt size 4 a few years ago but as I'm fairly short at 5'3 so I do have some wobbly bits and cellulite (don't most of us?)
I sometimes cycle to work and be remarked that I could "bike to work, use the gym after and then bike home" implying that it would be a good workout. I didn't ask for exercise advice.
After he left he sent me the photos he took of me through WhatsApp and I hate them, they're not flattering at all and I just look fat. I don't know why anybody would think it a good idea to send somebody deliberately unflattering photos of themselves. If I took a terrible photo of him I certainly wouldn't think it a good idea to send to him
That coupled with the other comments has made me wonder whether he was making thinly veiled digs about how I should lose weight.
Do you think that's the case or is it all just my issue?
I'm planning on asking him to delete the photos as it has got my back up and has triggered my E.D
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AIBU?
Made to feel bad about my weight, was it deliberate or is it just my issue?
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EllyB157 · 05/12/2020 09:22
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Am I being unreasonable?
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