I have just found out an old primary school friend is sleeping with my Uncle. They are both adults (she is 40 and he is late 60s) so it is clearly not anything to do with me but I suppose it just feels a bit yucky. I know I am being unreasonable. They met for the first time at my fathers funeral a few months ago (his death has made me feel very emotional so understand this is probably why I am feeling like I do ) and I have had a few suspicions since - for example she rang him whilst I was in his car (she didn't know I was present) and was very flirty, his address was in her sat nav ,we had a very awkward encounter when they pretended she hadn't been to his house before when she clearly had etc. I asked her straight out in a pleasant/light way and she denied it , but tonight my cousin has confirmed it. My Uncle is in a long term relationship (talk of marriage - she would be his 4th wife) and unfortunately my friend has got a serious drug problem (we were close when at school but I have had to deliberately reduce contact as she was always after money/had problems with the police/ there was constant exhausting drama and chaos etc: ). My other cousin claimed she was asking my uncle for a lot of money when he was in the car with him. Ultimately I suppose all that matters is that they are consenting adults and, I suppose, they might make each other happy but it just all feels a bit unpleasant. I feel sorry for his girlfriend and I don't like being lied to.
In the circumstances I think I should probably just avoid them both for a bit? It will likely resolve it self ?- but to be honest I do feel a little differently about them both.
Ultimately I have been really struggling with my much adored fathers death and don't really need the drama of it (my Uncle said he would like to act as a sort of fatherly figure now my Dad has died - ha fat chance of that ever happening lol!).
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HumptyDumpty1947 · 04/12/2020 23:55
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