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Start using Mumsnet PremiumDoes this seem harsh or me being too sensitive ?
(47 Posts)Was getting unsoliticed Facebook messages from a few random men, as was a friend of mine.
I just ignored the messages or blocked, creepy messages suggesting rude things by total strangers.
Anyway, I told a mutual friend and she laughed and said that I must be giving off a certain vibe to these men and probably doing something that makes them send me these messages, and that they are probably all talking about me together.
Then she said I should probably delete social media altogether.
Her and another friend also suggested i'd get a 'slut' reputation if I were to go on dates with a 3rd guy in 7 months, (I had had 1 month 'relationships' with 2 prior to him).
Well, I hope she's never on a rape jury.
You need better friends, OP.
Yeah, i've not exactly got revealing pictures or anything and even if I had it doesn't mean I should receive that sort of attention.
I think the 'slut' thing was a bit unnecessary too. As it happens they are in very long-term relationships and don't know how hard it can be for people to meet others.
3 dates on 7onths males you a slut or sex with 3 men in 7 months? I mean neither of those is a big deal and your "friends" are awful, I'm just wondering how crazy they actually are
What???
I'm 50 and get the odd random friend request. It's probably from some game site I'm on and they think I have money or something.
Where do you think they might have got your details? A dating site? Is there any way you can change your settings?
Your friend is an idiot . Of course you're not doing anything and I very much doubt they know each other or are laughing amongst themselves. What an odd thing to say
They sound like jealous 12 year olds I'd ignore them or accuse them of victim blaming.
I serial dated for about a year at one point not DTD with them.
I went on about 20 different dates had fun after a long relationship.
They meant sex with 3 men in 7 months I think. I think SOME people in long-term relationships as I said forget that it's not easy for everybody to meet people who they can have something long-term with.
It was because they were all from the same town (a town of 65,000 people !) not exactly some tiny hamlet where everybody knows each other, and even if, so what.
I didn't date the 3rd guy in the end as a result, believe it or not 4 friends told me i'd get a 'rep', and only two said they were being ridiculous.
I told the friend how I felt and she apologised and said she was just joking.
If you'd shagged 3 men in 7 days it wouldn't be their business to call you misogynistic names. 3 men in 7 hours I'd worry about cystitis but that's me.
I get weird friend requests and I have politics and landscape with the odd food or family post. It's the men. It's not you.
Yeah exactly it's none of their business.
Hahah the cystitis would be awful for sure.
Yeah, some men do seem to send these messages out to any female to be honest, sure I was one of many.
Your friends are so judgemental and weird
I put a picture of a treatment I had done, seems shallow but it really cheered me up and boosted my confidence having it, and made a difference physically, anyone one replied probably out of politeness and the rest of them ignored it haha
Her and another friend also suggested i'd get a 'slut' reputation if I were to go on dates with a 3rd guy in 7 months
Who would know you’d dated or slept with 3 men though? 
who did they think would be giving you this reputation? Surely only close friends would know about your sex life and close friends wouldn’t think you were a “slut”, would they?
On a group chat* I meant
Yeah they seem to think every man in this town of 65,000 knows each other well.
If they ignored your photo they're mean or are against it.
I'd bet they're immature and trying to bring you down.I'm interested in what you had done breasts or lips
Neither of those haha don't wanna say in case it's outing sorry, but maybe they thought I didn't need it but still.
@Makingplansfornigel I'm only kidding. 
It might be time to meet new friends some single ones branch out.
It won't be the first time friends in a relationship become insecure of their single friend.
Your not doing anything wrong dating, date 20 men if you choose just don't let them find out about each other. 
To answer your question. You're not being over sensitive they were harsh.
Thanks, yeah it's weird, it's not like i've had a rib removed or something, a very minor treatment but it's really boosted me.
Haha don't think i'd have time for 20 😀
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Well, I hope she's never on a rape jury.
You need better friends, OP.
Well quite.
And sadly so many people who think like this are on juries which is why the rape conviction rate is so appallingly low.
OP get better friends. FWIW, I had this a few times, all in the same couple of weeks. My profile was on the tightest privacy settings and my profile picture was from my favourite TV show (all male main cast so no sexy women on there!). There are just some sad individuals out there who get their jollies from shit like this.
DTD what is that?
thosetalesofunexpect
ed DTD what is that?
doing the deed
Can you socially distance yourself from these friends? Permanently?
I feel like it yeah 😀
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