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AIBU?

to be upset husband doesn't like my new coat?

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likeamillpond · 03/12/2020 17:37

Apparently 'it's an lady coat and doesn't suit you'
' I had to say something because it's not doing you any favours'

Why am I upset? It's just a coat, but I've taken it personally. I feel he's insulted me

Probably because I thought it looked nice on and I thought I lioked good in it and I've worn it a lot in recent weeks.
Now I find out it looks horrible on me and makes .me look old?
Wtf?

I'm prepared to be told I'm being ridiculous.

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Flowerpot345 · 03/12/2020 17:38

Show us the coat op.

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Shetoshe · 03/12/2020 17:39

YANBU to be a little upset, it's normal to feel a sting when someone comments on your appearance - especially when you were under the impression it looked good on you.

Really need to see the coat to see if he's right though Grin

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MrsGrindah · 03/12/2020 17:39

The very first night I met DH he told me he hated my coat.

You’ll get past it OP.

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flaviaritt · 03/12/2020 17:39

Well... we all make fashion mistakes, OP. What’s he normally like?

And can we see the coat? Grin

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Janaih · 03/12/2020 17:39

It sounds like he could have worded it better. Sorry you're upset by it.
Any chance we can see the coat in question?

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june2007 · 03/12/2020 17:40

So he doesn,t like it. But more to the point do you?

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user1493413286 · 03/12/2020 17:40

What’s the coat like? That would sting but I’d rather be told. I’d prefer to have been told when I bought it though rather than weeks in.

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WendyImHome · 03/12/2020 17:40

Very harsh if you've been wearing it already for weeks!
Can we see the coat? We can put him right (hopefully)

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Mumdiva99 · 03/12/2020 17:41

Is he good with fashion? If not ignore him! Wear what you love. Life is too short not to. And honestly if you wear it with confidence you will look amazing!!

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Shetoshe · 03/12/2020 17:41

Is it one of those teddy coats? I don't think they're flattering on anyone and hope that trend dies soon as I'm finding it impossible to find a nice coat. If they're not teddy coats they're all oversized and boxy ughhh. I'm short and when I try them on I look like I'm a child in my grandad's overcoat - wondering if that what your husband's on about?

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JacobMarley · 03/12/2020 17:42

Everyone has different tastes. Your DH may hate it but others may love it.

Do you have a pic?

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HikeForward · 03/12/2020 17:42

Natural to feel upset but it’s only a coat.

Can you not ask him to get you another one if he dislikes it so much?

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likeamillpond · 03/12/2020 17:44

It's a popular style this year.
Sort of a boucle wool coat
Not fitted. But tapers in a bit at the bottom.
It comes down to mid thigh.

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Simplyunacceptable · 03/12/2020 17:44

can you not ask him to get you another one if he dislikes it so much?

Why should OP have to change her coat to appease her husband? Is this 1950? Hmm

If you like the coat carry on wearing it, screw him.

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flaviaritt · 03/12/2020 17:44

SHOW US THE COAT!

Grin

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steff13 · 03/12/2020 17:45

What's a wrong with looking like a lady?

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likeamillpond · 03/12/2020 17:45

Im wondeeung if his morher used to wear a sumilar style?

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WoolieLiberal · 03/12/2020 17:46

If you had asked him his opinion and he said this, ask yourself if you would rather he lied.

DH always gives an honest opinion if I ask for it, even if it’s not what I want to hear. The flip side is that I know that positive comments are genuine.

If he’d volunteered the negative without me asking for an opinion, however... [gets claws out]...

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likeamillpond · 03/12/2020 17:46

It's not a teddy coat.

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mumsiedarlingrevolta · 03/12/2020 17:47

well if he doesn't like it don't let him wear it

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Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 03/12/2020 17:47

I bought a new coat one year in the January sales. And a hat to match..
Ds said I looked like a lovely sheep!!
Hat went in the charity bag!!
Yabu to give a fook what your dh thinks anyway op.
Enjoy your new coat!

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PhlegmyHead · 03/12/2020 17:47

Need a pic OP

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josbd · 03/12/2020 17:47

Perhaps he has no taste ??

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billy1966 · 03/12/2020 17:48

I love my husband but I certainly wouldn't treat his opinion as that of a fashion guru....I dress for myself primarily and a bonus if he admires something I'm wearing....

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unmarkedbythat · 03/12/2020 17:48

Dh mocks loads of my clothes. Who cares. I like them so I wear them!

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