My son is 9 months old and he’s not a great sleeper.
Our over night stay in hospital on the day he was born, I couldn’t put him down and I held him all night. I buzzed a midwife so many times but they were too busy to help me out.
Things didn’t get better when we got home, he absolutely wouldn’t go down in his Moses basket.
I asked our midwife for advice and she said it was 4th trimester and it would improve.
It didn’t improve, not wanting our son to become upset, my husband and I began to sleep in shifts, one of us would stay up holding our son whilst the other slept and then we would swap (husband was on furlough so this worked for us)
When my son was 3 months old we were able to put him into his next to me crib.
He settled for a few weeks and then we were back to square one.
In desperation to get some sleep I started putting him in my bed with me.(after reading about the safe sleep 7)
He will sleep well and just wakes for feeds (he’s breastfed)
The problem is I’m really anxious about him being in with me and I’d like to get him into his cot but it’s just so hard without him becoming so so upset.
I go to bed every night at around 8pm and take my son with me.
This means that in 9 months my husband and I have never had an evening together and I barely get any time to myself as my son won’t settle if my husband takes him to bed so it’s always me.
I do love having cuddles with my son and we are getting sleep, but I just feel like it would be nice to have him in a proper sleep routine, in his cot.
Daytime naps he will always take on me.
We’ve tried so many times to take him up and settle him in his cot but he can be screaming for hours (we never leave him crying for hours, we will cuddle him and when he’s sleepy put him down but he then instantly wakes and we have to start again)
If I put him in with me he will go to sleep instantly.
It’s causing problems in my marriage as my husband gets frustrated with me that he can’t settle our son and that I always step in.
We really don’t want to do sleep training that involves controlled crying but we are stuck on what we need to do.
We’re always in the room with my son when we try him in the cot and if he cries we try to comfort him before picking him up, but it escalates so quickly to the point that he sobs.
Where are we going wrong? What can we change / try?
Please be kind in your replies, I already feel like I’m failing so much and I can’t bare to be told this by outer people :(
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Am I’m failing my son? Please help me.
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cottondotty · 02/12/2020 23:06
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