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(58 Posts)On placement.All students. Failed a test . I can retake it. One colleague mocked it by saying " i heard you have to get 35 marks wrong to get a fail."
So she had worked out out then told me when she knew i was feeling shit sbout it. And also goes on about how amazing she is and makes negative comments about other people's performance....even qualified staff way above us. She told me that the staff thought another colleague " wasn't that good."
She never says any of this to their face btw ....always behind peoples back.
We are all students btw so learning and none of us are 100% amazing.
Aibu to tell her that she was tactless?
Just ask her what her point is? It's hardly constructive or nice. So what was her point, other than to make you feel bad and her superior?
I'm sure she will go far op 🙄
All the men love her as she is young, pretty and says the right thing to the right people.
I also think peole are scared of her as she is "sassy" . Aka....says it like it is...aka bitchy!
You sound like you have a problem with her in general. It's not her fault you failed your exam, regardless of her tactlessness.
Your last comment "All the men love her as she is young, pretty and says the right thing to the right people" sounds rather mean and riddled with jealousy.
Focus on yourself, ignore her and avoid her if she riles you up. Don't let her spoil your experience. If she is everything you say she is, it won't endear her to future colleagues and she'll soon get a wake-up call.
Pull her up when she says something at the time, try and have a response prepared if you get caught out. dont stew on it. She's probably enjoying getting a rise out of you and looking for a easy target. It's not you.
Yeah... pull her when she offends and shame her.
Can't wait to see the back of her when we finish in 2 weeks. I do have a massive problem with her because as soon as someone walks out of the room she will bitch about them.
I would suggest that you not bother about her, and just focus on your own life.
Her negativity is her problem. Don't make it yours. x
Ignore.
She'll shut up when she realises she doesn't have an audience.
Also she got close to this one girl then was very quick to get information from the qualified staff about how this girl wasn't. " very good" at her job.
Its the fact that she has directly been a bitch to me. Also, and this is prob a bit schoolgirl, she is very close friend with one of my best friends and now, as a result, i will keep them both at arms length!
You should have said something at the time. I wouldn't bother confronting her now but be ready for next time. If she says anything horrid about anyone else, pull her up on it. Just say something like "That's very unkind of you to say that". It will probably stop her in her tracks.
OP you will meet lots of people like this in your career. Be bright and breezy, never let her see if she gets to you. Ignore. Focus on you, work on your self esteem and she will
Target others and leave you alone.
Meh
Office politics, there's always a passive aggressive person somewhere
She is this offices
If you have nothing to put her complaint in about then either ignore her or play her at her own game
"Oh my lord, Susan was bitching about you yesterday... she said blah blah.., and that blah blah... this is what she told me about you..."
you'll be leaving there in two weeks, sink her bitch ship
Or ignore her and raise any eyebrow "That sounds catty Susan"
HR complaint not her complaint - doh
Yanbu BUT ywbu to say anything. Just keep your head down and judge her.
I did tell her that the colleagues were being VERY unprofessional in disclosing how crap our colleague was to her. She said " if you say so..." I said " I do say so....."
Wouldn't waste my tbh you should have said at the time pointless now dont let her bother you.
I was so shocked tbh i couldnt beleive i was hearing it! Dumbfounded.
Hi Op
I totally get where you are coming from too.
Btwn you and me your Colleague sounds like a right Arsehole !!
I can't stand people like that op.
Sooner or later her false phoney mask the charade of pretending she is nice decent person, will falter,she reveal her true colour's.
Karma works in mystery ways.
Don't let her Crap,negative attitude get to you,(I know its easier said than done..
Don't let her bother you so much, it will irritate her, your college, get under skin and piss her off more.
l.o.l (good result win situation for you..
Just ignore her, concentrate on your course, and get on with life. Don't let her suck your energy.
Shine a light on what she's doing, with insouciance, if you can.
Half laughing, say ''Gosh, well, I feel a bit shit now, was that your intention?'' and she will say ''no no no'' and you have to take her at face value then and just say ''I'm so relieved!'' that might sound like too weak an interaction to stop her in her tracks but it puts her on notice.
Humiliating somebody is not something a secure confident person does.
Are you both Nursing students?
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