I feel awful about this but it doesn't feel right to me to agree on going.
Me and DP moved back into my parents this year with our DS born in April, as we were struggling to get on the property ladder when renting so DM offered us to stay here to save, a huge help. We pay her reduced rent.
DP's family are very strong minded and outspoken, really difficult to say no to, especially his older brother.
He called us up the other day to say he decided to book a huge family holiday, and when I say huge I mean him, his short term girlfriend, her mam, dad, 2 sisters and grandad along with all of DPs family which is mam, stepdad, uncle, 2 cousins, grandad and then he wants me, DP and DS to come too. It's booked for Sept next year.
The following issues we have which make me feel it's not the right thing going:
- we've moved back in with my parents on the basis we would save, not go on expensive family holidays (without them!)
- I'm on maternity leave - this means I am no longer getting paid now until I return in March so we can't afford it.
- Being on maternity leave means I can't book any annual leave until I return, so can't expect to get the time off as holidays are competitive and I have no access to see if anyone's booked off already.
- it needs paying off by June, and I don't get paid until I return so 1.6k paid in 2/3 months isn't doable.
- It's over £800 each so over 1.5K - this is a large chunk of money that should be going towards our deposit.
- getting our own house sorted is more important to us than a 1 week holiday.
DP suggested we could either use credit cards (which are only there for emergencies) or use the money we've already saved to pay for it - It doesn't sit right with me at all if I was my DM I'd be thinking that we're taking the absolute mick out of her!
They've made us feel like we don't have a choice in the matter, all we hear is 'it'll be worth it' etc.
AIBU to say we can't go?