I’ve had a new kitchen since the lodger has moved in. She’s South American so I don’t know if it’s a language barrier or not.
Anyway she’s made comments that have suggested she’s not happy with the new kitchen and what I do.
Eg - a shelf with the glass/mugs on top of the kettle. She said it makes the kitchen “look smaller” and she prefers them in the cupboard. It doesn’t make the kitchen look smaller as you can only see the shelf when face on, it’s in the corner behind a pillar.
She was emptying the washing machine and said it’s too much effort. I have no idea what she meant as it’s a standard washing machine. She then asked to use the dryer, which is her real issue. Before the refurb the dryer was in the kitchen but now it’s in a cupboard. I can understand this is an inconvenience as have to use an extension cord and take out the hoover, but in my opening still easier than hanging clothes.
I allowed her to use my pepper/spice cupboard because I rarely use the stuff and when I was getting the new kitchen I put it away in a box under lots of stuff. She messaged me asking “where’s the pepper” I said I wasn’t too sure because it was under heaps of boxes and I didn’t want her to disturb. She had her dinner and I got home after 90 mins. She still asked for the pepper, which I thought was a bit annoying when it’s not hers and I’ve already told her. Anyway she’s not used the pepper for at least 7 weeks - which is weird.
She makes comments like “I cant find anything” when I’m in the same room instead of asking for something. New kitchen but it’s got much smaller units so some things have been moved.
She wouldn’t let me put up two shelves in her room - would only let me put up one.
The blender has broken and she’s been suggesting I get a new one. They are like £15, buy one if you want it.
The fire alarm started to bleep in the middle of the night - it’s the bleep that happens every 30 seconds. She said “what that little noise woke you up”. She seemed surprised.
I don’t invite her option or get her approval. I will be getting her to move out as I’m actually avoiding going back to my house. Yawn.
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AIBU by thinking my lodger is being passive aggressive?
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TomorrowToday · 30/11/2020 01:44
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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