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Start using Mumsnet PremiumURGENT - school gate crisis, ive got an hour!
(239 Posts)This is complicated, I'll try to be brief.
DSD15 is a shit at school, and has been locked in an ongoing fight with a similar twat of a child for months.
Both girls were excluded for a fortnight following a physical fight three weeks ago, and have been back a week.
Other girl has been very vocal towards DSD (who is no angel, I 100% believe she's been giving back as good as she gets) but no more physical incidents.
Today I have been asked to pick her up 10mins early as the other girl has assembled some adult male relatives to meet DSD outside school, and beat her up. Cousins, I believe.
According to DSD, these people actually turned up in the school reception earlier.
Whilst I am disgusted with DSDs behaviour, and that of the other girl on an ongoing basis, I feel that this has crossed a line into something totally different. Moving from a school spat to a planned, well, attack.
What the hell should my next move be?!?
Do I turn up at school prepared to collect and whizz home ignoring the potential issue, do I notify the police, or do I approach them myself and say 'for Christ's sake, what ARE you doing?'
The pissed off side of me wants to just March up and say wtf is wrong with you all, but my sensible head says if they're prepared to walk into a school to smack a child, I'm likely to end up with a thump?!?
Honestly, I have never known of anything so bloody ridiculous in all my life, and must stress how absolutely disgusted I am at everyone involved. But right now, I have an hour to work out how to manage this! HELP!
(I am at the end of my tether with this, it been a long line of issues this year, and I just want some fucking respite. But that's another thread)
Police.. 100% and make sure the school know that you’re escalating the incident
This is a serious safeguarding issue.
If what you say is accurate and you believe it's true then of course you call the police.
Police 
Have you spoken to the school about this?
Police police police
Police
I think I'd call the police for advice. Don't confront them under any circumstances. And I'd be turning up 30 mins early (in case other girl has found out and warned relatives).
Are the school not aware? Are they not doing anything about this?
Contact police and ask for them to attend when you collect her as you are concerned for your safety.
They could be there 10 minutes early too. The school should be alerting the police!
I'd be getting the child now and she wouldn't be returning until this is sorted fully.
Who asked you to pick her up early? DSD or the school?
I would go and collect her now. Extra 10mins might not be enough to avoid a confrontation and I would complain to the school too. It all depends on how this information on how these uncles will be coming to the school has come about. It could be an empty threat.
Yes police love. Absolutely.
You need to speak to:
Police
School
Child’s father.
But I would call the police as a precaution.
Oh and also 
Police and school. This has escalated to premeditated ambush (if true) and will be taken seriously, the men (cousins) could be charged as well as the girl
Call the police! I can’t belive the school didn’t earlier when a load of adults turned up wanting to thump a child!
Have you asked the school if these men actually turned up in reception?
Call the police! Then ask to school to keep her in until they are sure she can leave safely - letting her out ten minutes early is ridiculous, the relatives could easily be there already.
Are the school aware or did she just ask you to get her early.
Tell the school and she doesn’t come out of school alone
I would expect the school to have called the police if this group turned up in their reception or they knew they were going to be waiting for your sd.
I was a 'shit at school' always getting into fights and a totally nightmare.
I was having the fuck bullied out of me, was being started on, beaten up and I dared to fight back so my parents thought I could 'give as good as I got' as well.
I was having a fucking horrible time of it, and my mum spoke of me just like you are speaking of DSD.
I very much feel for your DSD. Poor bloody kid.
No wonder she plays up.
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