I've name changed for this, as it's embarrassing and potentially outing.
One of my colleagues is currently pregnant, and without fail, a few times every week, she will randomly bring up the fact that I haven't had children yet. She says things like:
"Are you not pregnant yet Thirty? Tick tock"
"Do you not worry about your body clock and running out of time?"
"You don't want to leave it too late".
"You want hurry up and get pregnant, you're nearly 40!" (I am thirty fucking one, she is mid 20s).
"You want to get a move on and get pregnant already, you don't want to end up a lonely old woman".
"Don't you worry about not having anyone to look after you when you're older?"
"Are you going to apply for the promotion? You might as well if you're not planning on getting pregnant anytime soon".
I usually laugh off her comments with "one day, just not yet" or "haha, think I've got a few fertile years left yet". But the truth is that I am unable to get pregnant atm, for reasons I don't want to discuss with her, anyone at work, or on this thread. I do want kids eventually, and being reminded of my "body clock" and my body's current shitty state several times a week is stressing me out and upsetting me tbh.
I'm not sure how to handle this situation; I am a people pleaser, and hate confrontation. I am counting down the weeks until her maternity leave starts, but it's not for a while yet and I'm not sure I can go on like this. I cried in the toilet the other day after one of her remarks. I feel pathetic for saying that I feel like I'm being bullied by her, but I genuinely do feel like that.
I know I should just say something like "could you please stop asking me about my womb", but I'm not sure how to phrase it, and embarrassed to say that I'm scared I would end up crying if I did say something like that. This girl is also really nosey, so she would want to know why I was bothered about it. Ugh.
I'm thinking of talking to my manager about it, but worried she'll think I'm being ridiculous. I'm a professional woman in my thirties, why am I letting this get to me so much?!
YABU = suck it up for the next few months and keep laughing it off.
YANBU = talk to your manager about it.
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Feel bullied by my pregnant colleague
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Thirtyflippingone · 25/11/2020 23:58
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