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AIBU to buy ( well sort of ) DD 7 a 100.00 necklace ?

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Whattheactual20201 Tue 24-Nov-20 06:47:12

So DD 7 is absolutely desperate for this necklace from a local jewellery shop ( she saw it when I was looking for something else ) I ignored it and carried in thinking she would forget about it BUT She didn’t she has consistently asked for it.
“Mummy I will be careful, I will look after it “ 🤣
Anyway I have finished her xmas shop etc and I didn’t buy her it.
I however been given money from both sets of grandparents For both DC to get them something which comes to 150.00.
Do I buy her it despite the fact I think it’s ridiculous for a necklace for a 7 year old but the one thing she really wants ?

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Thehop Tue 24-Nov-20 06:49:24

I would actually

mynameisnotmichaelcaine Tue 24-Nov-20 06:49:44

Get it. She'll remember that you listened to her forever. And if she's disappointed by it then she's learned a very valuable lesson about expectations and reality.

AaronPurr Tue 24-Nov-20 06:50:15

Can you post a picture of the necklace? MNetter are great detectives and might be able to find a cheaper copy.

I think it would be silly to spend £100 on the real one, especially as she wouldn't really get a chance to wear it often.

Whattheactual20201 Tue 24-Nov-20 06:52:36

@mynameisnotmichaelcaine yeh see another point is I would label it from her grandparents and my DF is sadly terminally ill so I’m thinking in might be a nice gift from them ?
They can’t go to the shops which is why they sent us money this year.
Maybe I could use the other 50 to buy a nice jewellery box so she has somewhere safe ( not the whole 50 )

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zigzagbetty Tue 24-Nov-20 06:52:50

If the money is to get them something why not get it. What would you buy otherwise? £100 on toys/games has the same value and if she does lose it then it is a lesson to her. Get a safety chain and get her the necklace imo smile could you return some of her other presents to make up the 25 pound shortfall?

zigzagbetty Tue 24-Nov-20 06:54:28

Sorry I read that the 150 was between the two grandchildren!

skankingpiglet Tue 24-Nov-20 06:54:30

I would get it too provided it isn't a really fine and delicate kind of necklace. Is she the sort of child who looks after her things?

Whattheactual20201 Tue 24-Nov-20 06:56:41

@skankingpiglet that’s a hard question to answer haha
I mean her dolls - no 🤣
Her special rock she found in the beach 4 years ago - yes haha

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TW2013 Tue 24-Nov-20 06:57:41

I think for a possibly last gift from grandparents I possibly would but maybe have a fake one too that she wears generally and then keep the nice one safe for special occasions.

Wharehina Tue 24-Nov-20 07:00:01

I would buy it on the proviso that she only wears it on special occasions (that you choose) until she’s older. That’s what I’ve done with the few special pieces of jewellery that my daughter has - I look after them, and she gets to wear them on her birthday, Christmas Day, and family parties (not that there’s been many of those this year).

Millie2013 Tue 24-Nov-20 07:00:07

In this case, I would, I wish DD had something from her dearly departed grandad

Could you insist she keeps it in your jewellery box when it’s not being worn? Just until she’s a bit older. And obviously stare that it’s not to be worn for climbing trees, etc

ginsparkles Tue 24-Nov-20 07:00:20

I work in a jewellery. 100% I would get it for her, especially due to your DF's condition. If the chain is quite fine, the jeweller can probably put a stronger chain on it for you. My advice is when you have bought it take really good photos of it, then should anything happen to it, a jeweller can make you a new copy of it. We have to do this a lot for people and good photos help a lot!

Russell19 Tue 24-Nov-20 07:00:27

I would buy it. It would be a lovely gift to keep. Can she wear it when she is older too?

mynameisnotmichaelcaine Tue 24-Nov-20 07:01:37


I think for a possibly last gift from grandparents I possibly would but maybe have a fake one too that she wears generally and then keep the nice one safe for special occasions.

That's a great idea. Buy the expensive one for special occasions and to remember her Grandad. Use the other £50 to buy a box and a cheaper version that she can wear to the school disco etc (when we all have lives again 😂)

Whattheactual20201 Tue 24-Nov-20 07:02:58

Yeh I mean it’s a lovely necklace, I changed the details some what in the post because it would be very outing and I have other spots I don’t want others to know about yet 🤣🤣
But its probably not worth 100 a bit commercial If that makes sense but it is a lovely necklace to look at.

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RonObvious Tue 24-Nov-20 07:03:01

I would buy it. I inherited a beautiful pendant around the same age, and absolutely treasured it. I still have it now, and it is one of my most important possessions.

Whattheactual20201 Tue 24-Nov-20 07:03:28

Posts not spots 🤣

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Alexandernevermind Tue 24-Nov-20 07:05:07

I would get it too given the sentimental reasons, although make sure she also have a special jewellery box for best jewellery. my DD has some really beautiful keepsake jewellery from her Baptism and First Holy Communion, which is worn very occasionally and well looked after.

Whattheactual20201 Tue 24-Nov-20 07:05:24

Thank you !
I will get it for her !

Now just to work our what to get DC13 with his money 🤣🤷‍♀️

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MoiraRoseismyStyleIcon Tue 24-Nov-20 07:05:38

MNetter are great detectives and might be able to find a cheaper copy

Could someone please recommend a necklace with an initial on it for my teen DD.

OP - I'd buy it but wouldn't put too much emphasis on it being "special". Jewellery is for wearing not keeping in a box. Also if she were to lose it, it wouldn't be fair for her to feel guilty.

Saisong Tue 24-Nov-20 07:05:55

To be honest is buy it too. It sounds like a lovely keepsake, which will tote het memories to special people. I'm assuming it isn't some pink glitter unicorn monstrosity that she would be seen dead in by age 10? The only caveat is that I would not allow her to access it without permission when she is still so young. One 'secret' trip to school and it will be gone forever.

Saisong Tue 24-Nov-20 07:06:29

Sorry rubbish spelling/autocorrect

Honeywort Tue 24-Nov-20 07:06:35

In light of your update about your df being ill (really sorry to hear this flowers), I definitely would get it from the grandparents. I got my dd a similarly expensive item in similar circumstances - though dd was a teenager. And she only wears the necklace occasionally but it is really special when she does.

flaviaritt Tue 24-Nov-20 07:06:37

I wouldn’t buy it as a special gift from her grandparent (who is terminally ill) unless I was sure I could keep it safe for her, and that it is the sort of item she could wear for a long time. Otherwise, yes.

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