My friend is going through a messy divorce. He cheated, she did the pick me dance and lost. 5 years on, he is happily living with the OW and she is bitter and depressed.
He has now lodged a petition for 50/50 parenting (it has been eow until now) and wants to finalise the financial settlement. She has shown me the documents and he has suggested a 70/30 split in her favour.
He has accused her of child neglect and possible child abuse. Social services have been involved.
She is depressed and his allegations of child neglect are not completely unfounded although he has dramatised things somewhat. This is taking its toll on her and on then kids(issues at school etc).
However, she is insistent on fighting this, particularly the custody issue.
I don’t think it is a fight she can win but I want to support her.
If you have been in my friend’s situation, what advice could I give that will actually get through to her? She really doesn’t want to listen to anything that isn’t 100% in agreement with her own opinion.
I want to be supportive but am I being unreasonable to tell her that her parenting isn’t perfect and he should do 50/50?
If I do that, how can I continue to be supportive?
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Helping someone through separation/divorce/custody battle
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WattleOn · 21/11/2020 22:33
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Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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