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Toxic neighbour: the sequel - is there anything I can do apart from keep my head down?

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thepeopleversuswork · 28/10/2020 13:53

I've posted before about my nightmare upstairs neighbour here: some of you may recall this:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3611051-To-think-if-this-bothers-her-that-much-she-should-pay-to-get-it-sorted-herself

In case link doesn't work: for about 18 months she constantly complained to me about incredibly trivial things such as stray empty bin liners (which had nothing to do with me) getting into her wheelie bin etc. Things came to a head when she asked me to pay for an expensive appliance to be added to her boiler because she didn't like the noise which was made in her flat when my hot taps were turned on and off.

This sorry saga was resolved just over a year ago when after multiple attempts on my part to share the cost of getting the plumbing fixed she eventually complained to the council's environmental health department. Two very reasonable blokes arrived from the council, they inspected both our properties and said - as I had suggested all along -- it was a simple cheap plumbing fix which we should go halves on. I agreed and paid, as did she before getting into an audibly heated argument with the environmental health inspectors arguing that it was me that should pay for it. (I could hear them telling her to calm down and eventually storming out of her flat through the floor.)

So that was the end of that and for the past year or so I haven't heard a peep out of her, and obviously COVID has since happened and most people have got more things to worry about then ambient plumbing noises and stray bin liners. All quiet on the western front, I thought.

But in the last couple of days I briefly left a chest of drawers outside my flat as I initially tried to get it collected by the council recycling. They weren't able to do it and I was waiting for a friend with a car to pick it up and take it to a local furniture recycling place. This morning I looked out of the window when I was eating breakfast to see my neighbour taking loads of pictures on her phone: not only of the chest of drawers but lots of other shots of my front garden and the front of my house.

I can't be sure but it looks as if she is putting together some sort of dossier of "fly-tipping" or other alleged antisocial behaviour to share with the council or some other outside agency.

I don't think she's got a leg to stand on: I've since moved the chest of drawers to my shed as its clearly not going to be that easy to get it picked up and I can't leave it for weeks, it was only out there for 24 hours, and my front garden and bins are all in decent, tidy shape.

I am really pissed off that she's photographing me and my property after everything that's happened and quite uneasy that she's about to start up more nonsense: I'm working really hard (from home) at the moment and I don't have the time or energy for more of this drama.

I'm torn between just wanting to keep my head down and hope for the best or warning her: it crossed my mind to ask my solicitor to write a letter but I'm sure that will antagonise her and she hasn't as far as I can tell done anything illegal. But I'm not prepared to go through another stressful exercise in being harassed by someone who is bored and vindictive over something really trivial at the moment and feel I need to put down a line in the sand.

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Sunnydaysstillhere · 28/10/2020 13:57

A4 letters in each window.
Fuck off you nosey bint