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To hire a nanny and offer her this set up?

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plplz Wed 28-Oct-20 10:59:18

A quick run down, five-month old DD and have had her nursery for a month or so, and she's not been doing as well as we would like, so looking at a nanny.

The dilemma is that it's only a few months before I think she would do a lot better in the nursery, and the costs of a nanny are eye-watering.

We interviewed a great nanny who isn’t working at the moment, and while I would love to have her in I don't want to mess her about.

Would it be unreasonable to ask her to work for us while she finds a suitable gig, and pay her cash (would probably meet her halfway between her gross and net rate as as sweetener).

Any warnings, advice or thoughts?

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Smallsteps88 Wed 28-Oct-20 11:00:56

I’d run a mile from you tbh.

RunningFromInsanity Wed 28-Oct-20 11:02:54

Surely you just advertise for a short term nanny?

RandomMess Wed 28-Oct-20 11:03:59

Look for a childminder?

Short term Nanny?

Why employ someone illegally cash on hand..

Rainb0wDrops Wed 28-Oct-20 11:04:34

Why not look for a childminder for a more homely environment and then move to nursery when ready?

NailsNeedDoing Wed 28-Oct-20 11:05:23

You can’t offer to pay her cash if by that you mean you don’t want to employ her properly, it’s insulting. You could offer her a temporary contract though and be honest about how long you expect to need her.

FelicityPike Wed 28-Oct-20 11:05:35

So you want to pay her cash in hand?
No way!

plplz Wed 28-Oct-20 11:06:11

To be fair she did allude to being ok with being paid in cash.

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user183684257424 Wed 28-Oct-20 11:06:25

You don't want to mess her about, but you do want to propose tax evasion to her?

Right.

SnaggleBeast Wed 28-Oct-20 11:07:22

You can only ask. I wouldn't expect her to say yes though. Especially not if you're offering her less than she wants.

HOkieCOkie Wed 28-Oct-20 11:08:16

No you have to employe your nanny and pay her all tax and NI. I’ve been offered cash before and walked out of the Interview.

Sheeplife Wed 28-Oct-20 11:09:21

Yabu, pay properly and legally.

user183684257424 Wed 28-Oct-20 11:10:15

You do realise you can be imprisoned for tax evasion?

ittooshallpass Wed 28-Oct-20 11:10:25

How would you like a 5 month old to do at nursery? What are the issues? Surely talk to nursery and get them resolved. Definitely don't pay someone cash in hand!

mangocoveredlamb Wed 28-Oct-20 11:12:29

As the others have said don’t offer her the cash.

However I think you could offer her a temporary contract, which would make the “eye watering” but short term.

Teedeepie Wed 28-Oct-20 11:13:23

I would be very wary about employing somebody to look after my precious child without a formal or legal contact which is what you would be doing with a cash in hand set up. It simply isn’t worth the risk to your child. Advertise it as a 6 month (for example) contract properly.

SpeccyLime Wed 28-Oct-20 11:15:03

why would you want any nanny willing to agree to working under illegal conditions anyway? Surely personal integrity is totally fundamental when considering who you would want looking after your kids?

flaviaritt Wed 28-Oct-20 11:16:11

What happens if she does something to hurt your child?

WhySoSensitive Wed 28-Oct-20 11:18:05

Why isn’t she doing well at nursery OP? Did you have expectations not met for her or is it something else?

SnaggleBeast Wed 28-Oct-20 11:18:33

I missed the age. What difference will a few months make?!

hm246 Wed 28-Oct-20 11:20:33

Not sure I could trust someone to look after my child in my home if they were willing to participate in tax avoidance.

mindutopia Wed 28-Oct-20 11:26:22

Just push ahead with nursery. Nursery is always difficult to start. It will be rough for the first few months at 9 months or 12 months too. I would just carry on. I think it would be more difficult settling in with a nanny and then taking that person away and trying to settle into a new setting later.

HOkieCOkie Wed 28-Oct-20 11:27:10

@flaviaritt why would she hurt her child? Nannies don’t hurt children they prefer to care for them.

flaviaritt Wed 28-Oct-20 11:28:27

I didn’t say she would hurt the child. I am asking what the OP would do if harm came to the child as a result of the nanny’s actions and she had no employment contract, hadn’t been paying tax etc.

NoSleepInTheHeat Wed 28-Oct-20 11:31:41

I can't believe people would think about doing cash in hand for childcare. Basically you are showing someone that you want to trust 100% that you are dishonest...

Also, you do realize that she can tell HMRC about it and as employer you will be the one liable for penalties?

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