My brother and his girlfriend split up about a year ago, they have a DD who’s 4.
This has gone on for some time before they split, but his girlfriend tells people they can’t do things with DD as she wants to do them first.
I completely get that if she was planning to do these things with her, but then she waits and waits and waits.... and they don’t seem to happen.
For context, DD spends 2 days a week with her mum, 2 days with my mum and dad, a day with her dad and the other 2 days with grandparents (seperately)
Examples to name a few:
My mum and dad wanting to take her swimming. Told no. She ended up going almost 6 months later, once.
Flipped out my mum and dad went pumpkin picking and to the circus with her, but has never shown an interest in either of these things.
Wanted to take her on holiday, we were told no. She’s still not gone on holiday.
I wanted to buy her a dolls house for Christmas, no as her mum wants to buy her first (but hasn’t bought her one yet and won’t be buying her one for Christmas)
I would 100% get it if she was planning to do these things with her, but it feels like DD is suffering going without because her mums a bit controlling.
I’ve already bought her a dolls house for Christmas and I was intending for it to stay at my mum and dads (she has 2 of everything as her mums family lives half an hour away). She’s got wind of it through my brother and basically said take it back.
AIBU thinking I don’t want my niece to go without?
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Litsy · 25/10/2020 07:12
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Am I being unreasonable?
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