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AIBU?

to not want to get dd from uni?

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Noideawottodo · 22/10/2020 17:12

She's been isolating at her bfs house for 14 days. He and all his flatmates tested positive for covid. She developed symptoms, fever, cough, sore throat. Didn't get tested just assumed she had it. That was 10 days ago.

She wants to go back to her own house in a couple of days when she's done 14 days. But a flatmate in that house has just tested positive, if she goes there she will have to isolate again for 14 days.

She's really struggling. She's had a row with her boyf and can't bear to stay there for much longer. Her proper house mates didn't want her there as one is vulnerable.

Anyway she wants to come home. I don't want her home as I can't risk my other dcs getting it before they are due to go back to school in 10 days (they are having a 2 week half term). She says she'll self isolate in her bedroom, but i will have to collect her in the car and drive her home for 2 hours so if she still has it I will catch it?

I'm very confused and don't know what to do for the best.

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flaviaritt · 22/10/2020 17:17

She’s your child and has nowhere safe to stay. It’s a no-brainer for me.

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IDontDrinkTea · 22/10/2020 17:18

I’d bring her home in a heartbeat

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Noideawottodo · 22/10/2020 17:19

Timeline - October 8th, boyf tests positive as do his flatmates. Dd tests negative but quarantines with them because her proper house don't want her to bring cv back to them
October 12 - she develops bad symptoms of cv

October 22 - she is feeling better, looking forward to returning to her house but now someone there has tested positive which means if she returns another 14 day quarantine.
Boyf is going home to parents

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dementedpixie · 22/10/2020 17:19

If she's done her time isolating then why can't she come home?

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Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 22/10/2020 17:19

You need to go get her. Wear masks in the car and she can isolate in her room. I wouldn't leave my child stranded.

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Noideawottodo · 22/10/2020 17:19

Even in the car? I suppose not fair to make her get public transport

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CraftyGin · 22/10/2020 17:20

What is your gut-feel, OP?

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Smallsteps88 · 22/10/2020 17:20

Tell her to get a test now. She’ll have results by the time her 14 day isolation is up.

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Comefromaway · 22/10/2020 17:20

I’d bring her home.

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Leaannb · 22/10/2020 17:21

Jas she tested negative yet?

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dementedpixie · 22/10/2020 17:21

She sits in the back, both have masks on, windows open?
Although 10 days is the time you need to isolate for if you get covid and she's done that

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Noideawottodo · 22/10/2020 17:22

@Smallsteps88

Tell her to get a test now. She’ll have results by the time her 14 day isolation is up.

She could catch it the day after!

Gut feeling is to get her - but dd2 is in her final a level year, has anxiety and asthma!
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Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 22/10/2020 17:22

@Leaannb

Jas she tested negative yet?

She hasn't been tested. Why don't people read?!
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Noideawottodo · 22/10/2020 17:22

@dementedpixie

She sits in the back, both have masks on, windows open?
Although 10 days is the time you need to isolate for if you get covid and she's done that

yes good idea
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TeeniefaeTroon · 22/10/2020 17:22

She needs to get a test, just because she had some symptoms doesn't mean she had it. If she tests tomorrow she'll have the results on Saturday.
I'm picking my daughter up from Uni tomorrow but she did test positive and is a week out of her quarantine. I wouldn't have risked it otherwise.

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speakout · 22/10/2020 17:23

An easy decision- and I have a DD at Uni- I would be jumping in the car.

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Noideawottodo · 22/10/2020 17:23

She tested negative, then developed symptoms 4 days later. I told her to go and get tested when she had symptoms but said it would be a waste of a test as she knew she had it.

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TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 22/10/2020 17:24

DD2 isn’t sitting exams for months and months. Go get your DD1.

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TeeniefaeTroon · 22/10/2020 17:24

As an aside, DD's boyfriend had symptoms but didn't test positive at all.

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AryaStarkWolf · 22/10/2020 17:24

I'd get her but be as careful as possible, I think you need to OP

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Florencex · 22/10/2020 17:25

I can’t believe you are asking this! So long as she does the 14 days her self isolation is complete. Let her come home.

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Noideawottodo · 22/10/2020 17:25

What if she tests positive still (dead virus)?

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Noideawottodo · 22/10/2020 17:26

@Florencex

I can’t believe you are asking this! So long as she does the 14 days her self isolation is complete. Let her come home.

I know it probably sounds stupid
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Mindymomo · 22/10/2020 17:28

If she had had a test on Oct 12 and it came back positive, she would have had to isolate for 10 days, so she should be clear now. I would pick her up, both wear masks and keep windows open. I understand your dilemma, but would want her back home.

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glitterbiscuits · 22/10/2020 17:28

She's your child even if she's over 18. She's needs to come home and feel loved.

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