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To think this is too big an age gap?

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Sjapnowpls Wed 21-Oct-20 20:09:42

22 year old female and 29 year old male. I think they're at 2 different stages of their lives and surely very different maturity levels. AIBU?

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ABabyPanda Wed 21-Oct-20 20:10:44

It’s absolutely fine hmm

Clawdy Wed 21-Oct-20 20:11:31

Doesn't sound remotely a problem to me.That is not a large age gap.

Francescaisstressed Wed 21-Oct-20 20:12:07

It entirely depends on the people in the relationship/maturity levels etc. I know 29 year olds who still live with their parents and never had a real job and 22 year olds who've worked full time for years and have kids.
I don't think age should be that much of an issue, and if it is they'll have to work that out for themselves no good passing an opinion.

EdmundElephantIsACleverClogs Wed 21-Oct-20 20:12:17

Yabu, I don't see anything at all wrong with that.

Betty94 Wed 21-Oct-20 20:12:53

I mean no not really, my mum was 19 and my dad was 50 so I was expecting to see something as bad as that gringrin if two consenting adults want to be together then it's whatever

AFlockOfKnots Wed 21-Oct-20 20:13:18

Backstory in the "two different stages" so let's wait and see what OP posts next.

BojoKilledMyMojo Wed 21-Oct-20 20:13:38

It isn't too big a gap at all.

From the way you've written your post I assume you aren't one of the two people, in which case its absolutely none of your business either.

tiredybear Wed 21-Oct-20 20:14:15

eh, what? My mum and dad have an 8 year age gap..married over 50years, met when she was early 20s, he late 20s.

I started a relationship with my OH when I was 19, 8 year age gap, still together 21 years later.

If you are both adults, age is just a number.

ExclamationPerfume Wed 21-Oct-20 20:14:23

Different stages? They are 7 years apart which is hardly anything.

OHappyDay Wed 21-Oct-20 20:15:14

It’s fine in my opinion, I was 22 when I met my husband and he was 29 and we’re still together 10 years later. We’ve been happily married for the past 5 years with a nearly 4 year old little boy.

Brighterthansunflowers Wed 21-Oct-20 20:16:20

YABU

They might be at different stages. But two 29 year olds might be at totally different stages as well.

They’re both adults and capable of making their own decisions so keep out of their business

SimplyRadishing Wed 21-Oct-20 20:16:33

I think you aren't necessarily wrong BUT it does depend on lifestage.
I know 29 year old that act like 22 year olds
But it's probably not your place if you arent 1 of the 2

MirandaGoshawk Wed 21-Oct-20 20:17:15

Is it your DD? Have you met the BF? It depends on the individuals. It can just be a bit of fun, can't it - doesn't have to be serious?

Meepmeeep Wed 21-Oct-20 20:17:32

What’s your interest in this? It’s only a 7 year age gap between adults 🤷🏻‍♀️

feministfemme Wed 21-Oct-20 20:17:34

If everyone is a consenting adult then there's no harm IMO. Why do you think it's too big?

jennie0412 Wed 21-Oct-20 20:17:55

It is absolutely none of yours nor our business what 2 grown adults do in their free time confused

Oysterbabe Wed 21-Oct-20 20:18:42

Completely fine and normal.

LST Wed 21-Oct-20 20:18:52

Are you being serious?

Lulu1919 Wed 21-Oct-20 20:18:55

My daughter and husband have a 13 year age gap ...they got married a few weeks ago and you wouldn't even think there was a gap at all.
She is 27 very mature and has always worked hard and lived independently from us since she was 19 .

ohidoliketobe Wed 21-Oct-20 20:19:25

I was expecting 22 and 69.
7 years isn't an age gap tbh. Born in the same decade.

DownstairsMixUp Wed 21-Oct-20 20:19:28

The older you get the less age matters I've always thought. I wouldn't say this was bad, both are a good amount into adulthood.

ShalomToYouJackie Wed 21-Oct-20 20:19:31

Not atall, I have a friend who is in a relationship with the same age difference, they are both at the same stage in their life and having a child.

Anyone at any age can be in any "stage" in their life. Not all people in their early twenties want to party all the time and not all people in their late twenties/early thirties want to settle down.

ShalomToYouJackie Wed 21-Oct-20 20:19:36

Not atall, I have a friend who is in a relationship with the same age difference, they are both at the same stage in their life and having a child.

Anyone at any age can be in any "stage" in their life. Not all people in their early twenties want to party all the time and not all people in their late twenties/early thirties want to settle down.

Snackasaurus Wed 21-Oct-20 20:20:05

I was 19 when I met my DH, he was 28. Fast forward and we're now in our own house, married with a baby on the way! We don't notice the difference at all smile

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