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To wonder if sex has changed?

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WeWantTheFinestWines Wed 21-Oct-20 19:45:37

Lately it seems that any time anyone on tv has sex it's from behind. I'm sure it didn't use to be like that. And I can't work out if it's anal (which I wouldn't do in a month of Sundays) or just a different way of accessing the usual bits (which I don't mind). And what does the woman get out of it?

It feels like they changed things while I wasn't looking... did I miss a rule change? Am I impossibly old fashioned?

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Longtalljosie Wed 21-Oct-20 19:47:24

Maybe it’s Covid restrictions for the actors??

Toilenstripes Wed 21-Oct-20 19:49:02

It’s probably about the better angles and it looks sexier.

addler Wed 21-Oct-20 19:50:36

I haven't noticed a change on TV but it's probably my favourite position. It feels deeper and harder.

CheshireDing Wed 21-Oct-20 19:51:26

Loving that it might be due to covid restrictions 😂.

It’s bloody good from behind, maybe that’s why 🤷‍♀️😂

AwkwardMoment2020 Wed 21-Oct-20 19:54:46

It’s been like this for about 8 years on TV and the increasingly graphic sex scenes all of us actresses were expected to do was part of why I stopped auditioning for TV and Film.
It used to be that a young actress would get called in for a bit part on Casualty as an invalid or the like for early TV roles but many of us were finding, with HBO, and the like we were getting called in to audition to be fucked from behind over a table then slapped across the face and chucked out.

All the casting directors and even drama teachers when I was at drama school seemed to think it was every woman’s dream to be “taken and fucked from behind”.

In reality we like all sorts of different things. I’d agree that it’s rarer to see missionary or other face to face positions (other than woman on top) on TV/Film these days and more likely that you will see doggy or other from behind positions.

I don’t think it’s meant to depict anal lol.

WeWantTheFinestWines Wed 21-Oct-20 22:06:04

So sorry Awkward that is horrible. Sounds misogynistic and cruel.

Judging by other replies I may be missing a trick. Maybe worth a try when I'm no longer single...

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MootingMirror Wed 21-Oct-20 22:13:34

OP, you sound like you haven't had sex from behind?!?!

halfmoonfullmoon Wed 21-Oct-20 22:30:38

have you never had sex from behind?!

feministfemme Wed 21-Oct-20 22:34:25

Meh, not particularly partial to it myself. You never have to do anything you're uncomfortable with.

Handsnotwands Wed 21-Oct-20 23:06:18

It’s so you (the viewer) get a good look at boobs, unhindered by more than a glimpse of the guy over the shoulder

Anotherthink Wed 21-Oct-20 23:09:57

What tv are you watching I honestly haven't noticed this grin

WeWantTheFinestWines Wed 21-Oct-20 23:13:40

Can't even remember - certainly seen it in I May Destroy You and other stuff too recently.

I have had sex from behind, years ago, didn't really do anything for me, I much prefer being on top. And it seems very impersonal. But that's just me - maybe I should give it another go.

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Toontown Wed 21-Oct-20 23:16:14

It is a lot about male control.

overnightangel Wed 21-Oct-20 23:18:11

“And what does the woman get out of it?“

Are you kidding?! 😂

burglarbettybaby Wed 21-Oct-20 23:18:13

I have noticed this too eg. Peaky blinders and so on.

emilyfrost Wed 21-Oct-20 23:18:40

Doggystyle is one of the most popular positions there is, so it shouldn’t be surprising to see it so often on tv.

justasking111 Wed 21-Oct-20 23:20:33

We did go through a phase of up against the wall, I was in admiration of the men who could pick up, hold, and achieve this physically. You need legs of steel I would have thought.

I think it probably is all about camera angles and control now. I am not a fan they make it so violent on film.

Butteredtoast55 Wed 21-Oct-20 23:21:59

It was a Game of Thrones default position and I think it is linked to the rise of more graphic porn. Honestly, on film, I find it a bit dehumanising of women. Don't mind it in person though! [Wink]

MorganKitten Wed 21-Oct-20 23:25:26

It’s a better g spot position

CorianderLord Wed 21-Oct-20 23:30:57

It's normal sex just from behind. Very common, all my friends enjoy it as do I. It gives you easy access to the clitoris 🤷‍♀️

On Tv I imagine that it's when they don't want to imply romance which is insinuated by missionary.

Goosefoot Wed 21-Oct-20 23:33:54

I think it's about the visuals mostly. It's not necessarily historically accurate when they show it in older things, different and cultures and periods have different preferred sexual norms.

It does seem to be porn related and I think it's not an accident that they used porn actresses for some roles in GoT. It's funny really, because with porn so easy to find you'd think it would be kind of superfluous on regular tv. And the fact that the are carrying on with this approach that really affects young actresses pretty negatively in the wake of MeToo is a little hard to credit.

PickAChew Wed 21-Oct-20 23:34:04

Actually quite like sex from behind through the usual entrance. Touches all the right places.

oakleaffy Wed 21-Oct-20 23:36:43


OP, you sound like you haven't had sex from behind?!?!

Don't know why, but this has made me laugh out loud 😂

Whatwouldscullydo Wed 21-Oct-20 23:38:29

What on earth are you watching?

I hate sex on TV tbh. They always just pound away in a way that would get either of them no where and just bloody hurt.

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