To be pissed that i'll be doing other people errands on my break

[PhoebeBuffay1]

So OH will be having a minor op and has asked me to drive him back as he wont be able to due to being heavily medicated. I agreed but said i didnt want to return late so OH has booked us into a fancy hotel nearby and we will stay the night and leave tge next day. But my family have got wind of this and now are adding errands on for me to do. Like can you go and check on x and can you drop this to y. Im just so annoyed i want to cancel the whole thing but ive been looking forward to the break.

[Flavabobble]

You just explain you won't be able to. Don't offer explanations, just a polite no.

[AfterSchoolWorry]

Just tell them no.

[EL8888]

I’d just decline. You have more than enough on your plate.

[TheDuchessofMalfy]

Just say no!

[rorosemary]

Either say no, say you don't want to leave him alone when he's medicated or say nothing and text them on that day/evening that it didn't work out due to his medical needs.

[katy1213]

Just say no. How difficult is that? Don't offer excuses or explanations.

[throwaway100000]

An easy way out would be to tell them you’re literally just staying the night then driving home first thing? He is recovering from surgery after all.

What are they asking you to do?

[OhioOhioOhio]

Definitely just say no.

[Weirdfan]

Say no OP, don't let them ruin the tiny bright spot you've managed to find in a presumably not very nice situation. You and DH matter too and it's perfectly reasonable to want to focus on yourselves, especially as DH is having surgery. Just say no, they can't make you do any of it

[burglarbettybaby]

So rude of them under the circumstances just no. Tell them you won't have time

[jessstan1]

@Flavabobble

You just explain you won't be able to. Don't offer explanations, just a polite no.

That.

It's unreasonable and ridiculous for them to ask this of you.

[Ponoka7]

Tell them that you've been told that because of the risk of your DP catching Covid in the hospital, you've been told to limit your movements, also there's a general infection risk for him and the whole point of it is 24 hour recovery time. That's if you can't say an outright no.

[NeonGenesis]

Say no.

If you've already agreed then tell them you're no longer able to. Back out.

[CounsellorTroi]

Tell them the hospital have told you your OH must have someone with him for 24 hours after the op. So he can’t be left.

[seayork2020]

Use the word no

[Shodan]

If you really can't just say 'No', as is your right, then say that you've found out that you won't have any spare time to check on x or deliver something to y, very sorry, hope they get it sorted. Then move the conversation along.

If they keep saying things like 'Oh but it'll only take 20 minutes, surely you can spare that' you say 'No, sorry, I told you I won't have any spare time'/'No, can't, sorry'/ 'No, I won't have the time'

Don't give up your night in a lovely hotel.

[EveryDayIsADuvetDay]

Voted YABU - why on earth don;t you just say "no"?

• but YANBU in feeling pissed off at the stream of requests

[SBTLove]

You’re staying the night at a hotel, what on earth can you be asked to do? I’m a bit mystified 🙄

[Poulter]

Definitely say no. They're being unreasonable by asking you. So it should be easy to turn them down.

[Italiangreyhound]

No is a complete sentence.

[Isthisannoying]

You just need to say no. Say you need to look after dh if you want an excuse.